How to Choose Your Dream Wedding Dress: 70 Things to Know

Whether you've been dreaming of your wedding dress since you were five and know the exact specifications you want for it down to the last sequin, or you've never thought about it until your future spouse's mother nagged, "You still haven't gotten your gown," we've got you covered on how to choose a wedding dress.

Finding your dream wedding dress can be stressful. After all, you've likely never tried one on before, and it's the most expensive garment many women will ever own, so it can feel like the pressure is definitely on while wedding dress shopping. It may also feel like there's a whole new language to decode—tulle, A-line, fit-and-flare, organza, sheath, etc. Not to mention, more brides are doing multiple dresses—a more formal one for the ceremony and a party-centric one for the reception—which can make shopping even more stressful.

No matter your budget, personal style, or timeline, these wedding dress shopping tips are guaranteed to help you find the gown of your dreams.

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Do Research to Find What You Like

Miranda Kerr in wedding dress with designer — Patrick Demarchelier

Rip pages out of magazines, click through bridal boutiques online, explore on Pinterest, and check out what celebrity brides are wearing to compile a visual file of your favorite dresses. Then look for a connecting theme—are they all very embellished, lacy, or voluminous? Do they all have open backs? Find a couple commonalities of styles you like and bring your ideas to your first appointment.

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Be Open

BHLDN Wedding Dresses Fall 2018 — Sara Kerens

Bridal consultants will tell you that they constantly see women come in with a set idea of what they want for a gown, then try it on and don't actually love it—and instead, fall for something completely different they'd never considered. Keep an open mind while wedding dress shopping. You may find your dream dress that you didn't know would be your dream dress.

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Brace Yourself for Bridal Sizing

Hayley Paige Fall 2018 — Alyssa Greenberg

Bridal sizing means your gown's number will often be one to two sizes higher than what you wear in your regular clothes. Even if going bigger sounds horrifying, remember that no one will know the number but you and your consultant.

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Shop True to Your Size

PARIS, FRANCE - JULY 04: A model walks the runway during the Chanel Haute Couture Fall/Winter 2017-2018 show as part of Haute Couture Paris Fashion Week on July 4, 2017 in Paris, France. (Photo by Bertrand Rindoff Petroff/Getty Images) — Bertrand Rindoff Petroff

Even if you plan on losing weight before the big day, shop for dresses in your current size rather than going smaller. It’s much easier to take a dress in than trying to work with one that’s way too snug.

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Shop Early

Many gowns take four to eight months to be produced, and once it arrives, you still have to factor in more time for alterations and accessorizing.

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But Not Too Early

If you’re having a long engagement and immediately start shopping for gowns, the one you end up buying might be out of style by the time your wedding comes around, or you might find one you like even better closer to the date.

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Figure Out Your Budget

Yes, it's uncomfortable to talk numbers, but it will save you from heartache later on. Before your first appointment, figure out who is paying for the gown (your family, your partner, you?).

If someone else is paying, get the hard numbers on your limit, so you can stay within that budget or pay the difference yourself to get the dress you want.

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Know Your Wedding Theme Beforehand

Bride in the garden — Carmen Santorelli; Event Planing by All Who Wander Events

Before you start dress shopping, decide whether you want a casual garden-party-themed wedding or a formal, romantic affair. Always keep the venue and theme in mind as you browse gowns, because the last thing you want is for your dress to clash with your overall wedding style.

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Plan Non-Obvious Costs Into the Budget

White spiked Louboutin slingbacks — Thecabook Fotolab

Say you plan to cap your fashion spending at $2,000—you actually shouldn't buy a $2,000 gown. That's because you need to factor in tailoring, accessories (your veil, jewelry, and shoes), and cleaning and preserving the gown after the wedding if you want it as a keepsake.

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Find a Great Bridal Salon

A view of Loho Bride, a bridal salon in LA and San Francisco, California. — Loho Bride

Do your homework before you start making appointments, since you don't want to waste time at a shop that doesn't carry dresses you like or has terrible customer service. Get referrals from married friends and check online reviews to find shops with solid reputations.

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Call Ahead

Idan Cohen Fall 2018 — COLLIN PIERSON PHOTOGRAPHY

Don’t waste your time shopping at a store that doesn’t have the style, designer, or price range you had in mind. Call the boutique or salon ahead of time to get the lowdown on its inventory before you make a visit.

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Make an Appointment

In most bridal stores, the dresses aren't displayed in a way where you can just leaf through them and browse on your own, the way you can in other retail stores. You'll need an appointment so a consultant can help you select dresses and try them on.

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Start Inexpensive and Work Your Way Up

Bridal models in Isabelle Armstrong collection — Isabelle Armstrong

Make your first appointment with the least-expensive bridal shop and keep scaling up if you don't find anything. Same goes for trying on dresses during your appointments—try on the most affordable one first, and work your way up to the bank-breaker. You may fall in love before then.

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Pick Three Adjectives to Describe Your Dream Dress

Bride in lace robe looking at wedding dress — David Salim; Event Planning by Design Anarchy Studio

Whether you want to feel classic, vintage, and comfortable, or romantic, glamorous, and beautiful, go into wedding dress shopping with a clear vision of how you want to look on the big day. Choosing three specific words to describe your vibe can help narrow down your dress selections.

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Shop on a Weekday

Bridal salons are packed on the weekends, meaning you may get less personal attention or the dress you love is being tried on by someone else. It's worth using some personal time from work to have your appointment on a weekday.

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Make Shopping a Whole-Day Affair

It's surprisingly time-consuming to put one wedding gown on and off, let alone three or four, and you definitely don't want to feel rushed to make a decision. Instead of making plans for brunch after your appointment or trying to fit it in between other errands, leave a few hours so you can take your time browsing and trying on dresses.

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Choose Your Shopping Crew Wisely

Bridal models in different dresses — Greg Finck

Yes, you love your mom, sister, sister-in-law, maid of honor, and six bridesmaids—but if you've ever tried to get a crowd to agree on where to go for dinner, you can only imagine how hard it will be to find consensus on a gown. Narrow the group down to the two or three people whose opinions matter most to you.

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Bring the Right Undergarments

Model in Danielle Frankel two-piece design — Danielle Frankel

It can be hard to take in how a strapless dress really looks when your leopard bra straps are sticking out, or how a curve-hugging gown would fit once your hips are smoothed. For your appointments, wear a nude thong and strapless bra, and bring Spanx.

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Pick Your Silhouette

Your ideal gown's shape is partly based on the style you like, the venue, and mood of your wedding, and also what flatters your body most. A fit-and-flare is both contemporary and traditional and works on many body types, whereas a simple sheath is best on tall, willowy brides. A voluminous ball gown adds drama, but can overwhelm a petite frame. Mermaid styles show off curves like your favorite pencil skirt.

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Keep Travel Arrangements in Mind

If you're flying to your wedding destination, look into airline regulations beforehand. You don't want to fall in love with a ball gown style dress, only to have it exceed airport size specifications come travel time.

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Consider Less Traditional Lengths

Bride in fringed mini dress dancing — Norman & Blake; Event Planning by 42 North

While they most likely won't work for a formal wedding, for a more casual, rustic, or beachy wedding, untraditional lengths can be a fun way to bring your personality to your big day dress. Tea length is fun for a quirky bride, whereas a white minidress has a rocker-chic party vibe.

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Pay Attention to Fabric

In addition to silhouette, color, and embellishments, fabric makes a big difference on how a gown will look on you. A heavier, more structured material (think silk shantung, taffeta, or guipure lace) will hold its shape and smooth your figure. Unstructured silk and filmy chiffon are less flattering for those brides with curves.

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Wear Heels to the Appointment

Bridal Shoes with Wedding Dress — Brandon Aquino

Some bridal salons have communal high heels you can borrow, but that's a little icky, and a dress will look a lot different with flip-flops than stilettos. Be prepared by bringing heels of the same height you think you'll likely wear for your big day, so you'll have a better idea of how the dress will look.

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Bring Dress Photos for Inspiration

Whether it’s printouts of dream dresses from your secret wedding Pinterest board you’ve had since college or a page from a magazine, come armed with a photo collage of the wedding dress styles you like best while shopping.

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Bring Scene-Setting Photos

In addition to gowns you pull from magazines or Pinterest, bring photos of your ceremony and reception site to the appointment. Seeing the venue ambience can help your consultant pull gowns that will be the most appropriate for the location.

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Believe Your Consultant That a Gown Looks Better "On"

Wedding dresses often have heavy details that can make it sag on a hanger. "Unlike shopping for a shirt, you won't really know what a wedding dress will look like until you actually try it on, so be open if your consultant promises the dress will look better on you than it does on the hanger," says Anne Chertoff, bridal expert at You & Me TV.

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Shop Trunk Shows for Savings

You can often take 10 percent off a gown that way and get to meet the designer, who may also "waive or discount certain changes, like raising or lowering a neckline, extending the length, changing the color, or adding straps," says Terry Hall, fashion director at Kleinfeld Bridal in New York City.

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Hit Sample Sales

"Salons frequently have sales to move older inventory, so you'll find designer gowns for 25 to 50 percent off. The only downside is most sales are stocked with sample sizes—that's bridal 8 and 10, comparable to ready to wear size 6 and 8," says Mark Ingram, president of Mark Ingram Atelier in New York City.

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Know That Embellishments Add Big Bucks

"Handwork like embroidery or beading always adds to the cost of the dress," Hall says. Of course, if simple isn't your style, those embellishments are worth it—just factor that into your budget.

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Don't Try on Gowns Above Your Budget

Model in Elie Saab Bridal Gown — Elie Saab

If you can't afford it, there's no point in trying it on—you're just torturing yourself and making a standard that no dress you can actually have will live up to.

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Consider Shopping Online

Is online shopping the only retail therapy you know? It's okay to buy your dress online if you're an avid online shopper; 18 percent of brides in the U.S. do just that. If you can try the dress on in person that's great. If not, check the return policy—especially if you're ordering a few to try on and consider—to make sure you're entitled to a full refund if it doesn't look as dreamy in person.

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If You're Plus Size, Call Ahead

Bride being laced into dress — Abdülsamet Arslan / EyeEm / Getty Images

Nothing is worse than getting to a bridal salon and finding they only stock samples to size 10 and you have nothing to actually try on. (Unfortunately, that's the case for many, even though they sell sizes up to 26.) Call ahead to make sure your shop has plus-size samples for the style and designer you want to try on, or if not, whether they can get some in before your appointment.

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Be Prepared to Try on a Lot of Gowns

Naeem Khan Fall 2018 Bridal Fashion Week — Alyssa Greenberg

Unfortunately, unless you're really lucky, the first wedding gown you try on probably isn’t going to be "the one." But don’t get frustrated if you’ve tried on dress after dress to no avail. Stay patient and keep an open mind until you’re sure you’ve tried on the perfect dress. It might even take multiple shopping trips until you're fully 100 percent sure.

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But Do Limit Yourself

Make sure you stick to a few gowns per appointment/shopping trip. It is possible to try on too many wedding dresses and feel overwhelmed with options. If you’ve hit this point, take a break from shopping and sleep on your favorite choices.

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Decide if You're More Traditional or Trendy

Perhaps you're more the type who wants to look classic and timeless on your wedding day (think lace). Or maybe you're a fashionista who loves being up to the minute on trends.

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Take Inspiration From Celebrity Styles

Serena Williams and Alexis Ohanian's Wedding Ceremony — Mel Barlow & Co. / Allan Zepeda

Even though you may not have a star's unlimited wedding budget, you can still draw inspiration and help create a vision of what styles you want to replicate in your dress. That could mean Serena Williams's trendy cape or the classic lace silhouette of Pippa Middleton's gown.

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Stay True to What You Love

Sophia Tolli for Mon Cheri Spring 2018 — Sophia Tolli for Mon Cheri

It's easy, especially for people-pleasing brides, to bend in the moment to what gown your mom, sister, or maid of honor loves on you. But it's crucial that you go with what you love and what feels like your dream dress, regardless of other people's expectations.

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Try on a Non-White Gown

Bride wearing printed wedding dress and groom — Cinzia Bruschini; Event Planning by Savvy Event Studio

That might mean subtle eggshell or ivory, romantic blush, or even a bold print. It may not be right for you, but a survey showed 14 percent of brides would wear a colored wedding dress. Don't be afraid to be unique.

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Bring Family Heirlooms Shopping With You

If you want to incorporate a family heirloom, like a relative's veil or a piece of jewelry, into your wedding day look, bring it to all your shopping appointments to find the perfect matching gown.

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Target Salons in Your Budget

Marchesa dress — Yvonne Tnt.; Courtesy of Marchesa

"You'll feel you have a wide selection if you choose a salon with lots of options in your budget, rather than feeling like you're limited to just a few gowns if you shop at a salon where most dresses are out of your range," Ingram says.

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Be 100 Percent Sure Before You Say Yes

"All brides need to know it's their dress before saying 'yes.' When I work with a bride and sense that she is unsure, I encourage her to sleep on it," Hall says.

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Pose for Photos in Various Angles

For a true testament to how you’ll look in your wedding dress on the big day, have a friend or family member take pictures and videos of you while trying dresses on. Make sure that they capture all angles of each dress you're considering, from the back and sides to shots of you sitting down in the gown from the top up.

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Know That Mirrors Can Be Deceiving

Bride in front of mirror wearing Carolina Herrera dress — Carolina Herrera

Every mirror can make you look different, so that’s why it’s even more important that you rely on photos and videos to get an authentic sneak peek of what you’ll look like in your wedding dress.

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Consider How You Feel in the Dress

Bride close up of intricate dress — Les Amis Photo

The gown that makes you feel the most beautiful is the gown you should choose. Even if a gown checks off all of your criteria, keying in on feelings can help you decide between dresses and lead to that magical moment when you've finally found "the one."

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Consult Your Peers

If you're torn between two gowns or are still on the fence about your dream wedding dress, snap a pic and share it with someone close to you. Nothing can help you make a definite dress decision quite like unbiased feedback from real, fellow brides.

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Think About Your Current Favorite Pieces of Clothing

Close up of bridal model — Alexandra Grecco

Reflect on your favorite top or dress you already own that makes you feel your most confident or beautiful. What is it you like about it so much? Is it the fit, the fabric, the neckline, or the silhouette? Whatever it may be, envision the best components of your current wardrobe and your everyday style and translate those elements as shop for wedding dresses.

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Walk Away if You Feel Pressure

A salesperson should never put the heat on you to make a decision on the spot if you're unsure. A wedding gown is a very emotional purchase and a lifetime memory being created, so if you need more time to decide, take it—guilt free.

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Order Early to Avoid Rush Fees

"Since gowns take so long to be produced, placing your order 8-12 months in advance means you will avoid rush fees, which can run as much as 30 percent of the price of the dress," Hall says.

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Have a Professional Take Your Measurements

Bride getting fitted — Eva-Katalin / Getty Images

Even if you're ordering online, have a seamstress takes your measurements— this is not the time for DIY, since putting the measuring tape even an inch up or down from the industry standard can throw off your results.

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Order Too Big Rather Than Too Small

Model wearing Danielle Frankel designs — Danielle Frankel

Most gowns can be altered down one or two sizes and, depending on the seam allowance, up one size, so it's better to order too big and take it in than be stuck with a zipper that won't close.

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Test to Make Sure You Can Move

Groom twirling bride — Katie Ruther; Event Planning by Papaya Playa Project

No wedding gown is going to be as comfortable as your pajamas, but you don't want to be pulling it up or constricted by it all night, so bust out some moves in the dressing room. If you're planning a church wedding where you may need to kneel or sit during the ceremony, practice doing that in the gown. If you're planning to drop it like it's hot on the dance floor, try it out to make sure you can move how you want.

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Come Prepared with a Similar Beauty Look

If you go dress shopping with messy locks and no makeup, you're obviously not going to feel your most beautiful as you try on wedding frocks. To get the full effect, try to mimic your ideal wedding beauty look as closely as possible. You don't have to go all out, but dab on some makeup and wear your hair up or down, depending on how you plan to sport it on the big day.

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Be Sure You Love It Before You Buy

New York BRIDAL FASHION WEEK OCT2017 — DAN AND CORINA LECCA

If you decide you no longer want the dress after you order it, you'll most likely lose all of the money you put down, whether that's a deposit or the full amount.

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But Don't Take It as a Sign If You Don't Cry

If you're not an emotional person, or if you see the dress more as a way to express your personal style, you may not be brought to tears in the dressing room—but that doesn't mean you haven't found your gown. Not all brides cry when they find "the one."

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Personalize With a Tailor You Trust

Beautiful bride trying on wedding dress and fashion designer fitting it on her — Getty Images

"Couture" or "cut to measure" dresses are pricier because they're created just for you. It's far less expensive to buy off the rack and spend some money on a good tailor, and you'll still have it perfectly altered for your body.

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Book Early if You Prefer a Destination Bridal Shop

Reem Acra Fall 2018 Wedding Dresses — Getty Images

If you've seen a bridal shop on TV (say, Kleinfeld or Bridals by Lori), so have lots of other brides, which means you'll need to book far in advance—especially for a weekend appointment.

The major benefit of these stores is that they have some of the most knowledgeable consultants and a wide variety of dresses from hundreds of designers.

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Try a Local Bridal Boutique

Lovely Bride Boutique Interior — Lovely Bride

These offer an intimate setting, which is great for personal service but can mean fewer dresses to try on than massive stores. The upsides are they know the area, so they can be helpful about what other local brides are wearing, and will also likely know your venue, so they can have a better sense of your wedding style.

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Or Try a Bridal Superstore

Bridal models in various designs — Idan Cohen

Chains like David's Bridal have a wide price range, meaning you may be able to snag a dress for as little as $300. Plus, you can usually try on dresses in your size, not a sample size, which is good news for brides who fall above or below a size 8 or 10, the usual sample sizes.

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Shop Vintage

Bride solo shot — Sean Money and Elizabeth Fay

Pre-owned vintage gowns can get a bad rep because they’ve been worn previously, but you can slash costs and find a totally unique, timeless style for your wedding dress. Shopping at vintage boutiques is a win-win.

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Be Open With Your Bridal Consultant

NEW YORK, NY - OCTOBER 05: A model walks the runway for Dennis Basso for Kleinfeld Bridal show during New York Bridal Fashion Week at Kleinfeld on October 5, 2017 in New York City (Photo by Yuchen Liao#638659#51B ED/Getty Images) — Getty Images

If you're shopping with a consultant at a bridal boutique or salon, don't hold back when letting him or her know exactly what you're looking for. Be as honest and open as possible. The more information you give about your likes and dislikes, the easier it will be for the consultant to pick out your dream gown.

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Keep the Season in Mind

Bride and bridesmaids wrapped in furs — Laura Gordon

If your wedding is in the Caribbean in August, go for lightweight fabrics in breezy styles. But if you're getting hitched in the winter in Boston, it's all about snow-like sparkle and heavier, lush fabrics like satin or taffeta.

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Throw Out the "Rules"

Bride buttoning tuxedo jacket — Katie Grant

Despite all the advice that's available about choosing the most appropriate silhouette, style, and fabric, you don't have to listen to us, your consultant, or your mother. If you want to wear a taffeta ball gown on the beach or a trendy pantsuit to City Hall, do it—it's your wedding.

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Pay Attention to the Top of the Dress

Line up of bridal models — Edward James / Indigital.tv

You should love every aspect of your wedding dress, but keep in mind that the top of the gown will appear most in wedding photographs, especially while you're seated at dinner or dancing with your nearest and dearest. Make sure the gown fits comfortably when you're sitting down and that the neckline won't require adjusting throughout the day.

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Tweak a Gown in Tailoring, But Don't Re-design It

"It's fine for a good seamstress to do small updates like adding straps or changing the hemline," says gown designer Monique Lhuillier. "But any customization that requires the inner support and structure of the gown to be changed is risky, costly, and, many times, irreversible. If it's not done with precision, it can potentially ruin a gown."

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If You Don't Love It, Don't Panic—You Can Salvage It

If the dress arrives and you're iffy on it, you don't need to scrap it. Gather your trusted style advisers and "try it on with totally different accessories, like a new belt, or add a bolero," says Molly Guy, creative director at Stone Fox Bride. "If that doesn't help, a seamstress can really change the look by shortening it, changing the neckline, taking off sleeves, or adding sleeves."

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If You Must Start Over, Save Some Cash

Say you really can't fall back in love with the dress, but you can't afford to scrap it and start from scratch buying a second one. Re-sell it online, emphasizing that the dress is brand new and unworn. "That way you can recoup more than the average 50 percent resale and get back 60 to 80 percent of the retail price," says Julie Jones, founder of Encore Bridal, a gown resale website.

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Think About Adding a Bustle

Bride running in bustled dress — Justin Lee

If the dress of your dreams has a long train or hem, decide whether you want to get a bustle sewn into the gown. This will help you pick up your train during the reception, but keep in mind that it will alter how the back of the dress looks. Research the different bustle styles to see if one is right for your dress before you undergo fittings and alterations.

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Decide Your Dress Preview Policy in Advance

Bridesmaids admiring bride's dress — Laura Gordon

Of course you don't want your partner to see your pick, but what about friends? Make a rule before you start sending pics of the gown of how widely you'll share it—just with the people at the appointment? Just with the bridal party? If you don't set the rule in advance, you could feel trapped later into showing everyone, and lose some of the magic of the reveal on the big day.

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Keep the Dress Away From Home

Especially if you live with your partner, you don't want him or her to stumble upon your gown and ruin the surprise. Ask a relative or very trusted friend (perhaps someone you'd want to bring with you when you take the gown for tailoring appointments) if they'll let you keep the dress at their place until the big day. Plus, if it's not in your closet, you won't be tempted to wear it every day until the wedding.

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Relax and Stop Looking

Bride lounging on leather couch — Kelly Brown

Now that you've found your dream gown, stop shopping—it will make you nuts if you keep looking at dresses. Yours is great! Now just look forward to showing everyone on the big day.