The wedding adventure isn't just a big deal for the bride and the groom; it's a big deal for their parents too! Especially for their mothers, who are eager to be there for every single step, whether it's picking out the perfect dress, taste-testing the items that may find their way on the menu, or even choosing the songs the DJ is going to play to get people on the dance floor.
It's easy for the mothers of the bride and the groom to get carried away with every detail since ultimately, they are proud and excited to shower their children in perfection for the most special day of their lives.
So moms, listen up! Even if your wedding excitement is enough to practically have you take out a billboard and announce it in the heart of Times Square, remember that there are a time and place to voice your opinion and—above anything else—it's important to remember who this big day is truly about. It may be a challenge to swallow your "ifs," "ands," or "buts," but it's important to buckle down and take note of these 50 tips.
Be the Point Person for the Family
Before guests start bombarding the bride and the groom with handfuls of who, what, where, and whens, take the lead and answer these questions before they travel to the bride. Send out a FAQ list with answers a month or so before the wedding so that everyone is on the same page and can devour all of the must-have details.
Be Specific With How You'd Like to Help
Volunteer to Help out With the Nitty Gritty
Offer to be hands-on with the dirty work. Do they need someone to help them stuff envelopes? What about putting together the welcome bags? How about packing and organizing boxes for the day of? Make yourself available to help out with some of the less glamorous tasks.
Turn the Chores Into an Unexpected Party
If there's a part of the wedding adventure that the bride and the groom are dreading, turn it into a party! Bring a few bottles of champagne and some food spreads and offer to help them dive in and tackle those dreaded wedding to-do list tasks.
Wait for the Bride and Bridesmaids to Choose Their Dress Before You Choose Yours
That way, you can see the color scheme that the rest of the bridal party is going to wear before selecting your dress. You don't want to stand out too much from the other members of the bridal party—unless the bride and groom want that.
Carry Around a Mini-Survival Kit
Put together a tote bag of items you think the bride, groom, and wedding party may need and keep that close to you during the bridal shower, the rehearsal dinner, and on the day of the wedding. Be sure to add an extra pack of tissues, Band-Aids, and even a bag of snacks (just in case!)
Give Sentimental Gifts Along the Way
If there's a part of your wedding, the bride or groom's childhood, or even items from ancestors, be sure to gift those along the way. It'll be a more thoughtful gift than anything else during the wedding process and remind the couple how much their family is behind them.
Learn to Love the Soon-To-Be Couple
If you're not entirely sold on the bride or the groom, try to figure out what bothers you about that person and work those kinks out before the wedding. Try not to hold any grudges or negative thoughts toward them during the wedding planning process. Perhaps have a conversation with them early on to fix up your relationship.
Help Collect the Gifts
Lots of people at weddings have wedding gifts on them (in their suit jacket or their purse), but forget to hand them to the bride or groom or don't know where to place them. You can offer to collect gifts and then hand them over to the bride and the groom after the wedding is over.
The Party Isn't Over After the "I Dos"
After the wedding is over, the couple may need a lot of help in organizing gifts and sorting through decorations. Make yourself available for a couple of days after the wedding to help the couple settle in and make sure their new home isn't covered in wrapping paper or shredded envelopes.