Being asked to be the bride's maid of honor is the kind of question that warrants a glass of champagne and a giant pat on the back! You're about to transform from friend or family member into the bride's right hand gal pal, her on-call therapist, her party planner, and — above anything else — her dose of reality when all the wedding stress seems to get out of hand.
After all the excitement has passed, you may find yourself wondering where to start and what comes first. Do you jump right in and start planning the bachelorette party? Should you reach out to her family and see who is going to handle the bridal shower? How about reaching out to and rallying the other bridesmaids? You'll easily find yourself with a homemade to-do list of tasks that seems longer than a family of four's grocery list!
So before you find yourself making this maid of honor role your second full-time job, it's important to take a deep breath, have a quick meeting with the bride, and start mapping out a wedding timeline and to-do list with her right from the start.
But in order to make sure that nothing gets overlooked and you're there for the bride in ways you didn't know you'd have to be there for her (we're talking about helping her pee in her wedding dress or even offering to dance with her borderline-inappropriate great uncle), we're here to help! We've got your back with the ultimate list of 50 tips you should remember from start to finish. Consider these your core responsibilities, your big-day-saving guide, and everything in-between. You'll be the star of the bridal party with these 50 maid of honor tips.
Put Your Money Where Your Mouth Is
Before kicking off any planning for the bachelorette party or bridal shower, have a chat with the other bridesmaids to see how much they can afford to spend on these events. Don't assume they'll be able to cover the costs after you already have a girls' getaway to Cancun scheduled in the books.
Give Your Fellow Bridesmaids Options
When planning wedding events like the bachelorette party, give the bridal party options of different activities and ask them to (privately) submit a vote so you can get a feel of which activities they are most interested in. This is a great way to get them involved and excited about attending.
Be the Go-To Gal for the 411
Absorb as much wedding information as you can and let the other bridesmaids, the bride's family members, and even guests turn to you with any questions that they may have. This will save the bride a lot of time and stress of having to respond to text messages and emails about where and when events are taking place.
Attempt to Attend All Wedding Events
Try to be available to attend all the pre-wedding parties, especially the bridal shower and the bachelorette party. If you're unable to attend, let the bride know as soon as you do.