Before it's time to put on your tuxedo, lace up your dress shoes, and stare into the eyes of the love of your life during a wedding ceremony you'll never forget, you may find yourself wondering what your role is as the groom.
Everyone knows that as a groom, you'll be spending a lot of quality time with your groomsmen, celebrating and cheers-ing throughout the wedding adventure, but with all that pre-partying fun comes a little bit of work and a lot of support for your better half.
Whether you're down to get dirty with details or you normally stay in the background, letting your SO take charge and plan away, there are still some responsibilities you should add to your to-do list and make sure you're present for, in order to avoid any added stress or spur-of-the-moment fights with your spouse-to-be during the wedding planning process.
So after your engagement has set in and before it's time to walk down the aisle, take a look at these common mistakes grooms find themselves making and vow, right here, right now, to not make them before, during, and even after your starring moment as the groom during your wedding.
Calling Your Ex to Announce Your Engagement
Trust us, your ex will find out soon enough. There's no need to send a text or give them a phone call to notify them. Enjoy the place you are in right now—with the person you're about to marry—and refrain from going backward into the catacombs of past loves.
Neglecting Your Wedding Registry
Just think of it like shopping for a couple hundred birthday gifts that will help you kick off this new chapter with the love of your life. Be involved when selecting registry items with your spouse-to-be, and if there's something you especially want, ask to have it on the registry—within reason, of course.
Not Coordinating with Family Members
If you have an eager mother or aunt who wants to get involved with the planning, be sure to act as her liaison, making sure she gets in touch with your SO and is kept in the loop. You know the phrase "too many cooks in the kitchen?" The same goes for wedding planning and too many in-laws. (You might end up with two different DJs, florists, cakes, venues...)
Forgetting to Get Groomsmen Gifts
While being a groomsman is a fun job, it's also a little bit of a time commitment for your friends. Be sure to thank them with a thoughtful gift on the day of the wedding, like a pair of socks, cuff links, or a wallet.
Believing That Whatever Happens in Vegas Will Stay in Vegas
Your bachelor party should be a fun time for you and your friends, but remember to remain respectful of your spouse-to-be. If you drink yourself silly or gamble away half of your wedding budget, there's no way you can leave that behind when you board your flight back home.
Forgetting That All Important Groomsmen Talk
Maybe you knew these guys from as far back as kindergarten, but it's still important to have a quick chat with them about their wedding day behavior. Let them know that you want them to have fun, just not the spring-break-in-Mexico kind.
Getting Tipsy the Night Before
Try not to find out the hard way that no one is exempt from hangovers—even the groom. Take it easy the night before to avoid spending quality time with a bottle of aspirin and a pounding headache the morning of your wedding.
Straying From the Day-Of Itinerary
Every hour of the wedding day has been painstakingly scheduled so that everything runs smoothly. If you're planning on fitting in an early morning golf game or a stop at the barber, make sure you leave enough time to get back to the hotel or venue before the events begin.
Trusting Your Groomsmen's Fashion Sense
You may want to trust that they'll order the right tux on time, but it's worth checking in with the guys to avoid finding out on the wedding day that two of them purchased the wrong color shirt or the wrong style shoes.
Lending a Hand When It Comes to Thank You Notes
After the big day has come and gone, pitch in some help with the thank you notes, whether it's giving your input on the wording or writing a batch yourself.