Falling in love and saying a big giant “yes!” to the idea of spending your life with someone else means that you’ll also be saying yes to their friends and family members. Hopefully they are people you want to build solid relationships with as well, but it’s not always so easy. You might notice that getting along with some of your partner’s loved ones isn't such a simple task.
One relationship that might be a bit hard to figure out is the relationship you have with your fiancé’s mother. Becoming a daughter-in-law might make you feel like you’ve just earned yourself a second mother—someone who is there to support and love you. But at times, it may feel like she says too much and tries to do too much and you become annoyed, angry, and unsure of how to handle the situation.
If you have a daughter-in-law, or are about to get one in the coming months, it’s best to know that there are some things she wants to tell you but just doesn't know how to say them. Read on to find out the 30 things your daughter-in-law wants you to know, but might be too scared to tell you.
She Wishes You’d Pay for More of the Wedding
If you're following the tradition of having the bride’s family pay for the entire wedding, she might feel a bit resentful toward you, especially if her guest list is long and so is your wedding request list. Offer to pay for more of the wedding if there’s an invitation to do so.
She Wishes You Worked Harder on Cultivating a Relationship
Relationships take two people who are willing to put in the time and energy to make them thrive. If the relationship is feeling stale between you and your daughter-in-law, find ways that you can work a little bit harder to make it great again.
She Wishes She Could Host a Holiday—or Two
One of the biggest joys your daughter-in-law might be excited about is hosting a holiday at her place. Talk to her about that and if it’s true, let her host a holiday or two next year.
She Wishes You’d Stop Pushing Your Family Traditions on the Wedding
Write down a list of all your meaningful family traditions and choose one or two that you’d like the couple to have at the wedding, but that’s it.
She Wishes You Wouldn’t Invite an Extra Crew of People to the Wedding
Talk to the couple before you automatically send wedding invitations to a bunch of people. If they say you can only invite a certain number of guests, listen to them.