Earlier this year, Pink opened up about going to couples counseling with her husband Carey Hart—not because anything in particular was wrong, but so they could learn how to create a life with one another.
“We come from broken families and we had no model of, ‘How are we supposed to keep this family together?’ And live this crazy life? There’s no model, there’s no book that says, ‘Here’s how to do this!’" she said on the Today show on April 26 . “So, we go to counseling, and it works.”
The three-time Grammy winner married the motocross rider in 2006 after four years of dating. They’ve since welcomed daughter Willow and son Jameson, and Pink credited 17 years of therapy with helping get their relationship where it is today.
“Carey and I have been in couples counseling almost our entire 17 years that we’ve been together,” the pop star continued. “It’s the only reason we’re still together.”
The “Just Give Me a Reason” singer and her husband aren’t the only married couple to turn to counseling, especially not in Hollywood. Along with Pink and Hart, these eight other pairs have spoken about the positive effect couples therapy has had on their relationships.
Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard
The Good Place star and the Parenthood alum, who tied the knot in October 2013, have strengthened their connection through counseling.
“We went to therapy early on to learn what our pattern of arguing was and where we needed to stop that,” Shepard said on Good Morning America in 2017.
Bell added to People that year, “We have a very healthy marriage and we got there by doing therapy when we needed it, and constantly doing fierce moral inventories. We both take responsibility when we are wrong, and I think it is easy to work with him because I married him, because I enjoy spending time with him and I trust him.”
Kristin Cavallari and Jay Cutler
The reality star and the former NFL player split up while they were engaged in July 2011, but eventually walked down the aisle in June 2013 after welcoming their first child, son Camden, in August 2012—and going to couples therapy.
“I 100 percent credit our therapist for saving our relationship,” Cavallari told Steve Harvey in 2016. “We've come so far being in therapy both individually and together as a couple, that it's been incredibly beneficial."
Patrick Dempsey and Jillian Fink
They filed for divorce in January 2015 following 15 years of marriage, but reconciled the next year thanks in part to seeing a marriage counselor together.
“Jill and I decided it was time to work on our issues and improve,” the actor and dad to daughter Talula and twin sons Darby and Sullivan told People In 2016. “We wanted to be role models for our kids like, okay, if you have differences, you can work them out.”
The Grey’s Anatomy veteran made working on his marriage his priority in order to save it. “You’ve got to keep at it,” he said. “You’ve got to communicate, and stay open and not get lazy. And not give up. And lots of sex!”
Gabrielle Union and Dwyane Wade
The actress knows her love life with the former NBA star—who she wed in August 2014—looks nearly perfect from the outside. But in 2017, Union admitted to Complex, “There’s a process to happy. People are like ‘goals’; me and D are like, ‘wtf?’ We’ve kind of figured it out now, but I guess maybe we should tweet live from couples’ therapy.”
Busy Philipps and Marc Silverstein
The Busy Tonight host told her director husband in late 2016 that she wanted a divorce following nearly 10 years of marriage. She’d been emotionally cheating with another man, but Silverstein wanted to work on things for their family, so he and Philipps began going to therapy together and separately, and it resulted in a slow but sustainable change.
“We were doing well in therapy together too,” Philips wrote in her 2018 memoir This Will Only Hurt a Little. “In his own sessions, Marc had recently had what I guess is called a breakthrough, and when I finally came clean about the other dude, he was weirdly understanding about it. He really just wanted me to know that he loved me and was sorry I’d felt so alone for so many years and wanted to support me in whatever I needed. He wanted to be a different partner and a different dad, and he was delivering on that. It’s hard to explain it exactly, but he broke open in a way and totally changed the way he related to everyone, not just me. it wasn’t exactly overnight, but it was happening, and I could recognize the changed—everyone we knew could see it.”
The couple never filed for divorce, and continue to raise daughters Birdie and Cricket together.
Ali Wong and Justin Hakuta
The comedian and her husband since November 2014 go to couples therapy “to deal with all sorts of transitions,” she told Vanity Fair earlier this year. “People are worried about other people thinking something’s wrong in your relationship. And it’s like, something is wrong in every relationship. So if you’re not willing to admit that something is wrong, then something is wrong with you.”
Bryan Cranston and Robin Dearden
Though Cranston confessed he harbored some negative stereotypes about therapy, the Breaking Bad star eventually embraced it and has talked to someone on his own and with his actress wife of 20 years.
“I see a guy in L.A. from time to time, when I’m feeling edgy or anxiety-ridden,” Cranston told Rolling Stone in 2013. “And my wife and I go to a couples therapist. Our agreement is, if either of us feels like we want to go, the other can’t object. For my father’s generation, as he literally said, ‘I’d rather stick needles in my eyes than go to a therapist.’ When I was a kid, if you heard of someone who went to a psychiatrist, it meant they were crazy. That’s the kind of labeling and judgment I was raised with. And I had to get rid of that.”
Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott
After McDermott cheated on his wife since 2006 in late 2013, the duo went to marriage counseling and the actor entered rehab to “address some health and personal issues,” he said in a statement at the time. “We worked on everything,” Spelling told People in 2017. “The relationship as we knew it died. We had to bury that and start new.”
Welcoming their fifth child, son Beau, in March 2017 also helped bring Spelling and McDermott back together. “Rebuilding our marriage took time,” the Beverly Hills, 90210 star continued to People. “And now, having a new baby, it makes sense. It’s like a new baby in a new relationship.”