Should You and Your Fiancé Get an Astrology Chart Reading?

Astrologers share why you should learn your partner's zodiac chart.

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Most of us are familiar with what our astrology sign is. However, did you know that your full chart shows that you are actually a mix of signs aligned with different planets and orbital transits? "An astrological birth chart is a snapshot of the sky of the exact moment when you were born," explains Valerie Tejeda, author and astrologer at Sanctuary Astrology. "Most of us are familiar with our sun sign. It’s the sign that comes up when we Google our birthday and it’s what people are referring to when they ask, 'What’s your sign?' But, the birth chart looks at not just the day you were born, but the time and location as well, making it way more extensive than just looking at your sun sign.

While you can find your full chart on certain apps and websites, working with an astrologer can give you greater insights into what your transits mean. And, they can work with you to compare the charts of yourself and your partner to get a deeper look into how you work together. "Honestly, looking at love and compatibility in readings are some of my favorite readings to do," says Tejeda. "It’s always exciting to see what gets discovered and truly such a great thing to do before walking down the aisle!"

"It can make you feel really great about your relationship, as well," says Kirah Tabourn, founder of The Strology. "I think astrology in general can be so affirming, and that's why so many people get into it in the first place. So having someone affirm their relationship from a cosmic perspective can be a really lovely experience for a couple." Tabourn recommends looking for astrologers that specifically advertise joint or compatibility readings to make sure you can find someone skilled in the practice.

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Want to know what's written in the stars for you and your spouse-to-be? See ahead a few reasons why you should get an astrology chart reading together before you say "I do."

Understand Yourself and Your Fiancé

Getting a birth chart reading is a valuable way to get insights into your personality and needs according to the zodiac. "A birth chart is basically the energy that you are working with in life and looking at your birth chart—and the astrological archetypes that are associated with it—is a great tool for learning more about yourself and what makes you tick," says Tejeda.

Not only is it a great way to understand yourself and how you navigate the world, but it can also be helpful to learn about your partner as well. "Looking at two charts for love and compatibility can be really beneficial to understanding your partner on a deeper level," she says. "Let’s say someone’s moon sign is in the ninth house. This would point towards someone who really needs a relationship where their partner shares a desire for higher learning, spirituality, and self-improvement because those are the things that really help feed their soul. This would also be a great piece of information to have about your long-term partner."

Understand How You Work Together

A joint reading from an astrologer could be a beneficial tool for couples to understand how they work and communicate together. "Let’s say you look at two charts and it shows that one person’s Sun, Mercury, and Venus signs are in the third house," explains Tejeda. "This would point towards someone that not only needs clear communication in a relationship, but also needs to communicate and feel heard in their partnerships. This would be a great piece of information to have about your partner so you could approach your communication in a way that works best for the two of you."

Tabourn notes that getting an astrology reading can be like another form of counseling before tying the knot. "There's a level of acceptance that needs to occur with couples and it could be helpful to hear this is the way that you communicate, and this is the way that they communicate," Tabourn says. "It can certainly lead to some difficulties just like any sort of couples counseling could bring up issues." Overall though, she finds it to be an overall affirming experience if partners are open to what is being said.

Tejeda adds, "This obviously just scratches the surface of things to discover in a birth chart, which is why doing a birth chart reading before getting married can be such a fun and insightful way to get to know each other a little better!"

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