When it comes to celebrity couples, some put their love on display for the world to see (we’re looking at you, Machine Gun Kelly and Megan Fox), but some keep theirs closer to the vest. Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling are one twosome that most definitely falls into the latter category—and for a good reason. As Eva explained to inquisitive fans via Instagram last year, their union is theirs and theirs alone. “As far as Ryan and I, it just works for us this way to stay private,” she wrote. “I have always had a clear boundary when it comes to my man and my kids. I’ll talk about them, of course, with limits, but I won’t post pictures of our daily life.”
Given their tight-lipped nature, there’s plenty of mystery surrounding their union, but we’ve managed to uncover all their biggest relationship milestones regardless. Keep reading for a complete timeline of Ryan Gosling and Eva Mendes's relationship.
- Ryan suggested Eva for the role of Romina, his fictional love interest in 2012's The Place Beyond the Pines.
- The couple has managed to keep almost everything—even their marital status—under wraps throughout their 10-year-long relationship.
- Ryan has said that the only quality he looks for in a woman "is that she's Eva Mendes."
- Eva hadn't considered having children before she met her life partner, but now shares two daughters, Esmeralda and Amada, with the Oscar winner.
Summer of 2011: Falling in Love
While it’s unclear exactly when the former Mouseketeer first laid eyes on his leading lady, the director of their shared film, The Place Beyond the Pines, revealed a clue in an interview with Moviefone. Apparently, Gosling was responsible for Eva’s involvement in the film. "I had asked Ryan about who he thought should be Romina… we thought about it a lot,” Derek Cianfrance said. “He had known Eva a little bit. He said, 'You should meet with Eva because she's great; I think she's got a lot to offer that maybe people haven't seen, which would be great.’ So I said 'okay.'”
Eva confirmed that they had been acquainted ahead of filming to Oprah Daily in 2019, saying, "we had known each other for a while already, so to work together was really exciting."
September 3, 2011: The Happiest Place on Earth
Eva and Ryan were spotted exercising their chemistry offscreen while exploring the Happiest Place on Earth together at Disneyland in Anaheim, CA, in September 2011. According to a source for Us Weekly, "They were very playful," an observer told the outlet. "Eva was skipping around like a little girl... She would lean into him, and she held his arm the entire time."
October 16, 2011: A Romantic Drive
One month later, the Miami native and the Canadian actor were spotted sharing a kiss while stopped at a light while driving together in Hollywood.
September 7, 2012: a Red Carpet Appearance
Eva and Ryan walked the red carpet at the 2012 Toronto International Film Festival to promote their shared movie together. The actress later told Kelly Clarkson of the moment, “That’s literally me going, like, ‘I’m not in love with him. I’m not in love with him.’ Cause we just were trying to be very professional.”
May 20, 2014: Coupled Co-Workers
Three years after the lovebirds first fell for each other, the couple debuted their second project together, Lost River. Eva starred alongside lead Christina Hendricks as a cabaret dancer, Cat, and Ryan served as the movie’s writer, director, and co-producer.
Eva later reflected on the experience to Oprah Daily, saying, “Being in the film Lost River was nothing short of a magical experience. I would love to either act opposite [Ryan] again or be directed by him at some point. I just love working with him. In a career of 20+ years, to have my two most incredible creative experiences be with him, of course, I’d want a third.”
September 12, 2014: A New Addition
Though they kept their romance largely under wraps, Us Weekly confirmed that Eva and Ryan had become parents with the birth of their first daughter, Esmeralda Amada, on September 12, 2014.
March 5, 2015: A Family Affair
According to People, Ryan worked behind the scenes to make his love's 41st birthday celebration in 2015 one to remember, renting out a roller rink in Glendale. The surprise party came complete with flowers, balloons, and gifts. A source for the publication said that the duo, who attended with their then six-month-old babe in tow, skated around the rink hand-in-hand.
December 7, 2015: His Perfect Woman
Later that year, the Astronaut star gushed over his life partner to Hello! Canada, more or less calling her the perfect woman. “I know that I’m with the person I’m supposed to be with,” he told the publication. In fact, when it comes to qualities he looks for in a woman, he explained, "that she’s Eva Mendes. There’s nothing else I’m looking for.”
April 29, 2016: The Circle of Life
Eva and Ryan welcomed their second daughter Amada—Spanish for “beloved”—on April 29, 2016, according to a birth certificate obtained by TMZ. Her birth came less than two weeks after Eva lost her brother, Juan Carlos Mendez, to cancer. “We had a funeral service for him and that same week I had the baby. So it was really, really intense and obviously beyond heartbreaking, but also kind of beautiful,” the Hitch star told Latina magazine later that year.
May 12, 2016: Domestic Bliss
The growing family's household is a happy one if Ryan's 2016 Good Morning America interview is any indicator. When asked about the now three-to-one female-to-male ratio in his household, he gushed, “It’s Heaven. It’s like walking through a field of flowers every day. I live with angels.”
September 2016: Are They or Aren’t They?
Despite reports by Us Weekly in 2016 that the couple had secretly tied the knot right under our noses, TMZ cited a source close to the pair that same month who disputed the claims. Four years later, People refuted similar reports, stating that the duo is “not married.”
January 9, 2017: A Touching Tribute
Ryan saw success with La La Land at the 2017 Golden Globes when he took home the award for Best Actor in a Musical or Comedy. The actor took the opportunity to make a very touching tribute, dedicating his award to the memory of Eva's deceased brother, Juan. “While I was singing and dancing and playing piano and having one of the best experiences I’ve ever had on a film, my lady was raising our daughter, pregnant with our second, and trying to help her brother fight his battle with cancer," the Young Hercules alum shared. "If she hadn’t have taken all that on so that I could have this experience, it would surely be someone else up here other than me today. So, sweetheart, thank you.”
The father of two also acknowledged the pair’s girls, saying, “to my daughters, Amada and Esmeralda, I love you.”
Eva later spoke about the moment to Women’s Health, telling the publication, “It was like a dream. But really, what I heard was that he said my brother’s name. It was the most beautiful gesture, and I had no idea Ryan was going to say it.”
October 1, 2017: Date Night
The twosome stepped out for a rare high-profile date night for a Saturday Night Live after-party at Tao Restaurant in New York City after Ryan hosted the show’s season 43 premiere.
June 28, 2019: A Walk Down Memory Lane
Eva took a walk down memory lane in June 2019, sharing a snippet of the film that started it all with fans on social media. “Flashing back to one of my favorite scenes from A Place Beyond the Pines <3,” she captioned the clip, which shows her cozying up to the Dead Man's Bones singer to pose for a fictional family photo.
April 16, 2019: Changing Course
Eva admitted that Ryan changed the course of her life while speaking to Women’s Health in April 2019, noting that before falling for the actor, children were “the furthest thing from my mind.” When asked what changed, she retorted, “Ryan Gosling happened. I mean, falling in love with him. Then it made sense for me to have… not kids, but his kids. It was very specific to him.”
October 4, 2020: Happy at Home
While the couple was homebound with the rest of the world, Eva made it clear there was nowhere else she’d rather be. A fan comment on an old photo of the model running along the beach said, “you need to tell Ryan to get you out more,” to which Eva had the perfect response. “No, thank you, I’m good. Rather be home with my man than anywhere else in the world," she quipped.
May 27, 2021: Nostalgic Vibes
Mendes had fans in a tizzy when she shared a rare-but-heartwarming throwback photo from the pair’s shared 2012 flick, writing, “Throwing it wayyy back....” Looks like this couple is still going strong!