Continuing to date your spouse after you marry is one way to keep your romance alive, according to many marriage counselors and relationship experts. But no one ever seems to offer suggestions on where to go or what to do with your loved one. After all, going to the corner bistro every Saturday night can get a little stale.
To help you brainstorm for a good time, here are 55 exciting date ideas—including some from our readers—that are perfect for newlyweds and married vets alike.
Get Hot in the Kitchen
Pick up the ingredients you need to create a fabulous meal at the grocery store and then return home and cook it together. Sip some vino while you cook or whip up a mocktail to make it extra relaxing and sensual.
Get to Cookin' in the Bedroom
Throw a slumber party for two; serve dinner in bed and have each other for dessert. Participate in an online sex workshop to learn something new, or generally level up your bedroom time together.
Plan a Movie Night
Decide on a genre, or even more fun, pick a theme! Stream a flick that you’ll both enjoy, make popcorn, and get cozy under the blanket on the couch.
Make Strides Together
Go for a hike or long walk together. Get out in nature, get some exercise, and bond with each other. Reporting by Greater Good magazine suggests spending time in nature is great for "helping us to reduce anxiety, brooding, and stress, and increase our attention capacity, creativity, and our ability to connect with other people."
Jump for Java
Get coffee at your favorite coffee house or check out a new one. Even better, find out if the cafe hosts events, like open mic night, and get intimate over a hot cup of joe.
Go for a Ride
If you own bikes, hop on and check out a new route or rent a couple and see where the day takes you. Stop for a bite or ice cream on the way.
Belt Out a Song
Perform a duet at a karaoke bar. Better yet, reserve your own private room so you can get as loud as you want and even make out afterward, minus the dirty looks.
Hop on a Wild Ride
Go to a theme park and hold on to each other when the rollercoaster makes a dramatic drop. Then binge on funnel cake and take turns winning each other a stuffed animal.
Take the Leap
If you’re adventure seekers, consider going skydiving or bungee jumping together. The adrenaline rush is sure to be a highly unforgettable experience (pun intended). City dwellers might check out an indoor skydiving location, like iFly, in locations nationwide.
Head to the Zoo or Museum
Get cultured or learn something new about reptiles together as you stroll through the exhibits holding hands.
Rock Out at a Concert
Music always brings people together. Jamming to live beats—even if you’re more Beethoven than Bon Jovi—is a great stress reliever, whether you're in an intimate performance space or a jam-packed arena.
Take an Art Class Together
You don't have to be Picasso to have a good time. Channel Patrick Swayze and Demi Moore in Ghost and try pottery or another sensual art activity where you can get your hands dirty.
Challenge Each Other to a Tournament
Tennis, bowling, pool, or the arcade are always great for some friendly competition. Make things interesting and make a bet–loser has to make the winner dinner.
Take a Staycation
You don't have to go far to leave your worries behind. Check into a room at the hot new hotel, sleep in, get room service, and lounge by the pool. Or spruce up your space at home for staycation bliss.
Let It Snow
If you're lucky enough to live somewhere that snows, sledding and other fun winter activities are a delight for people of all ages. Make snow angels afterward or simply sit back and take in the wintry landscape.
Go for a Spin on a Motor Scooter
Switch up your usual commute and go for a spin on a motor scooter together. Channel Audrey Hepburn and Gregory Peck in Roman Holiday!
Stop to Smell the Roses
Flowers are an eternal symbol of romance. Head to your nearest botanical garden and learn all about them together, or take a stroll through a blooming park.
Take a Road Trip
Road trips are a wonderful way to break up your usual routine and liven things up. Go to the city or the country and enjoy a change of scenery.
Pack a Picnic
Fill up a picnic basket with goodies like a loaf of crusty bread, wine, cheese, and the season's fruit. Go to the park, take in some sunshine, and share your feast with one another on a blanket.
Be Tourists in Your Own City
Chances are you haven't visited all of the tourist sites in your hometown. Check some off the list together. Perhaps go all out and sign up for a sightseeing bus tour to enjoy the views.
Draw Sketches of One Another
Even if you can’t draw, you’ll have fun connecting to your creative sides and create a lovely memory. Who knows, you may surprise yourselves.
Take to the Ice
Glide around together at the nearest ice skating rink (a rollerskating rink works too). Warm up by a fireplace and share some hot cocoa afterward.
Camp Out Under the Stars
Look no further than your own backyard and the night sky for a romantic date. Or drive out a bit further to make it a special trip, and use a stargazing app to spot the constellations. If you are not an outdoorsy couple, opt for the planetarium for stargazing.
Root for the Home Team
Head to a sporting event of your choice. Even if you're not a sports fan, there's something special about being part of a collective energy; plus, there's always the concession stand to explore.
Climb Mountains Together
Whether you're rock climbing at an indoor gym or out in the wild, build trust and communication skills while working up a sweat.
Find a great wine tasting, vineyard, or food and wine pairing event. Sample some bottles and bring home your favorites.
Volunteer Your Time
Visit a senior home, organize a fundraiser for a non-profit, or volunteer a Saturday afternoon at a shelter. You’ll spend time with each other in the most rewarding way–making a difference and helping others.
Gamble on Your Love
Try your luck at a casino or make a wager over your favorite board game at home.
Check Out Open Houses
Whether or not either of you are into real estate, you can just dream out loud about your future together or gather inspiration for your current space.
Whip Out the Board Games
There are many great board games to choose from–pick one or three of your favorites! For a twist, the winner has to take the loser out to dinner for another date night.
Try Couples Retail Therapy
If you've been needing jeans or a new winter coat, take your boo with you for a second opinion. No one will boost your confidence more. Take turns shopping for each other and carrying the load of bags.
Get Down on the Dance Floor
Time to dust off those dancing shoes! Whether you sign up for dance lessons or hit up a club all night, just make sure you dance with each other. Not only is it a fantastic workout, you'll learn new moves and get an endorphin high from breaking a sweat.
Hunt for Treasure
Visit your local flea market, vintage, or antique store to find some secondhand gems. Have fun trying on clothes from bygone eras or score a killer midcentury piece of furniture for the house.
Appreciate the Art of Words
A night of spoken word or a poetry reading can spark romance–or at the very least a stimulating conversation. Grab a nightcap afterward to discuss.
If you happen to share the same perspective, rally behind a cause you both believe in, whether that's petitioning to save your neighborhood park or rallying behind pet adoption. It will give you a strong sense of shared purpose.
Make Love and Go All Out
Kick things up a notch. Wear sexy lingerie, send each other naughty text messages all day, light candles, throw rose petals on and around the bed, use edible body paints–whatever floats your boats.
Enjoy a hot air balloon ride. Bring some champagne or sparkling cider and toast to the view.
Watch the sun rise or set from a beautiful location. This would be perfect during a hike, near your favorite beach or lake, or at your favorite restaurant with a view.
Expand Your Palate
Pick a restaurant that serves a cuisine neither of you have ever tried before. You just might discover your new favorite dish.
Learn a New Language
Why not find an exciting new way to communicate with your loved one? French, Italian, Spanish, and other romance languages sound beautiful and might be the perfect turn-on in bed.
Get close and enjoy good conversation while waiting for that first bite. You can opt to cook your catch when you reel something in, so it’s practically two dates in one.
Tackle a Fun Home Project
Paint your basement a bright new color, install your home theater, create a collage of wedding photos for that empty wall. You’ll work as a team, and your home will get a nice upgrade in the process.
Rock the Boat
Whether you rent a paddle boat or sail boat, enjoy the fresh breeze and calm waters with your favorite person.
Read a Book
Visit your local bookstore or library and browse around. You can each pick out what you like, then pick out a book for each other.
When was the last time you played miniature golf? Bring back the classic high school date, but add a cocktail before or after to kick things up a notch.
Tee Up for Tea
Have high tea with scones and cucumber sandwiches at a ritzy hotel or tea house. You'll get to dress up and feel sophisticated for the afternoon.
Go for a Wreck Record
Bump each other with bumper cars or race each other in go karts. Either way, it'll be way more fun than driving in traffic.
Nothing is hotter than total relaxation. A couple's massage at a spa is practically guaranteed to put you both in the mood for romance afterward.
Below, a few more date ideas straight from our readers:
Throw an At-Home Picnic
"My husband is Italian, so we love to make our own pizza and enjoy it on what we like to call a 'floor picnic.' We go get all the ingredients, decant a nice bottle of red wine, and laugh and enjoy making dinner together. Then we set up a beautiful little floor picnic in the middle of our living room with floor pillows and poufs, candles, the works. All in the comfort of our own home. It's a great date for resetting and refocusing on each other. Unplugged, romantic, focused quality time." — @ssavannahjaydee
Change It Up
"We love to do a progressive-type meal to experience our favorite spots in town in one night now that we have a little one and don't get out as much. So we do drinks at one place, apps at another, the main course at another, and finish off with dessert at the fourth spot. It's also really fun on vacation." — @stephschertz
"We have an almost-9-month-old, and we don't live near friends or family, so every Wednesday night we have 'wine Wednesday.' After we put our baby down to sleep, we open a nice bottle and sit and talk. No TV. Weather permitting, we sit on the porch. It's a good way to reconnect." — @slynnmattice
"We love getting all dressed up and going to the theater or the ballet. Nothing better than your spouse looking and feeling fancy." — @hcolenw
Suttie J. How Nature Can Make You Kinder, Happier, and More Creative. Greater Good Magazine. March 2, 2016.