Coming up on 14 years of marriage? That’s a big deal! And after more than a decade of supporting your partner, nurturing your relationship, and having plenty of fun along the way, marking the occasion with a beautiful gift is certainly appropriate. It’s time to celebrate!
The traditional gift for celebrating 14 years after you said “I do” is ivory, but you’ll want to stray from the real deal made from elephant tusk. However, there are plenty of symbolic ivory items or experiences that make a great alternative in its place. And as for the modern gift? It's gold, a precious metal that represents prosperity and long-lasting commitment. You can even combine both traditional and modern gifts into one present—sparkly gold and sophisticated ivory hues make for a perfect marriage. From handmade jewelry to bar tools and beautiful fragrances, we've got you covered for this special anniversary.
Read on for the best 14th-anniversary gifts.
Williams Sonoma Gold Monogram Mug
Your partner will love any gift you choose, big or small. Keep things simple with a new cozy mug to match the modern theme. Order a gold monogram mug for your love, or grab two to make a beautiful new set for the kitchen.
Price at time of publish: $15
Custom Family Gifts Personalized Milestones Map
Celebrate every milestone the two of you have achieved in the past 14 years of marriage, including the incredible trips you’ve taken! This personalized map allows you to customize a beautiful piece to showcase the locations of spots you’ve visited together, allowing the memories to live on forever.
Price at time of publish: $45
West Elm Cotton Knit Throw
Cozy up at home together for a movie night, but don’t forget the snacks and a comfy blanket. This cotton knit throw is ultra-soft and comes in ivory white to fit the traditional theme (or you select from eight other colors to match your decor).
Price at time of publish: $90
Gather by Anthropologie Streamlined Cheese Knives, Set of 3
Put together a beautiful cheese and charcuterie spread to celebrate the occasion. But don’t forget the utensils! These gold cheese knives are a special way to mark the occasion with a modern gold gift. Plus, they’ll last in your kitchen for years to come.
Price at time of publish: $30
Glenfiddich Bourbon Barrel Reserve 14-Year-Old Single Malt Scotch Whisky
Scotch lover? Grab a bottle that’s as perfectly aged as your marriage. The Glenfiddich 14 Year Single Malt Scotch is aged in bourbon barrels for 14 years, giving it incredible flavors of spice and vanilla, with a hint of smoke.
Price at time of publish: $60
World Market Marble and Gold Serving Tray
Love hosting dinner parties together? Add a new piece to your serving collection while fitting the modern gold theme. This circular marble slab is wrapped in a gold frame for a beautiful way to display charcuterie, appetizers, desserts, and more.
Price at time of publish: $40
LUNATICART Crown-Post Gold Earrings
To match the modern theme, gold jewelry is sure to please. These 14K gold crown-post earrings are made by hand and capture light in the most beautiful way. Plus, who wouldn’t want crown-inspired earrings fit for a queen?
Price at time of publish: $182
Providence Woven Picnic Basket
Celebrate 14 years with a day in the park, but don’t forget to pack a picnic! This gorgeous set comes with everything you need, including plates, wines glasses, and utensils all bundled in a beautiful woven basket. All you’ll need to do is plan the menu.
Price at time of publish: $129
Anatomy of a Fragrance Eau de Parfum
While ivory and gold are the typical themes for a 14th-anniversary, orchids are also noted as the themed flower. Celebrate with scent by gifting a beautiful bottle of Eau de parfum in Orchid Vanille—she'll wear it every day and think of you!
Price at time of publish: $30
Wulf Creek Designs Elephant Couple Wine Glasses
While real ivory is out of the question, you can still celebrate with adorable elephants to match the theme. These elephant couple wine glasses can be personalized with names or a phrase and are as sweet as can be. Add them to a gift bag with a bottle of wine and raise a glass together.
Price at time of publish: $22
Angara Bezel-Set Opal Solitaire Necklace
The traditional 14th-anniversary stone? Opal. And this bezel-set gold necklace captures it most beautifully. With 14K yellow gold, it’s elegant yet strong and durable to remain in tip-top shape for years to come.
Price at time of publish: $389
Candlefolk Co Sea Salt Orchid Soy Candle
Follow the flower theme for your 14th-anniversary and embrace the tropical, romantic scent of orchids. This hand-poured soy candle features subtle floral notes balanced with ocean sea salt, making a calming scent that’ll keep burning as your relationship continues to flourish.
Price at time of publish: $24
Atlas Coffee Club
Is your spouse a coffee lover? Treat them to something unique! A monthly coffee subscription will deliver a new blend from around the world so they can experience new flavors for their daily morning brew. All you have to do is choose whether it should arrive as whole bean or ground.
Price at time of publish: $28 per shipment
Jacobsen Salt Co. Infused Salt Set With Stand
For the couple who loves to cook together, this is a gift that keeps giving. These beautifully-packaged, Oregon-coast sourced salts will add some extra flair to your spice cabinet. With flavor infusions like Pinot Noir, Rosemary, and Black Garlic, you’ll be thrilled to whip up a new dish together.
Price at time of publish: $35
What to look for in a 14th-anniversary gift
The traditional gift, ivory
While ivory is banned, it’s still seen as a precious symbol of patience, dignity, and stability, just like your marriage!. “Fourteen years of marriage is a testament to patience and durability, adaptation and collaboration, and fidelity and integrity, says etiquette expert Julie Blais Comeau. She adds that you've gotten well pas the "seven year itch" (double that time, in fact!) and that this anniversary is a testament to years respecting and honoring your vows.
The modern gift, gold
Just like your relationship after 14 years of marriage, gold is incredibly strong. It can withstand everyday wear, but it’s also flexible enough to mold into beautiful jewelry and other trinkets. Celebrating with jewelry or a piece for home that’s decked in gold is both functional and symbolic.
What are some creative anniversary ideas?
Of course, your anniversary gift can certainly be an experience rather than an item instead. Comeau suggests following the traditional theme of ivory and planning a safari trip to see it in the wild. You might also consider spending an afternoon taking a jewelry glass to create a gold necklace or pair of earrings together.
For the adventurous couple, plan to spend the day hiking at your favorite spot, complete with a great meal either once you reach the destination or when you return home. Of course, a beautifully written card can go a long way as well. Just remember, it’s all about showing your beau that you’re recognizing and celebrating 14 years strong and look forward to 14-plus more.
Do I have to follow the traditional and modern gift etiquette for an anniversary?
While it can be fun to go with a theme, it's definitely not a hard and fast rule. Gift-giving should be enjoyable, rather than stressful, so just go with your gut. After all, you know your partner best! “The most important element is if you’re planning a gift for both of you, celebrate together,” says Blais Comeau.
Personalized gifts are always appreciated—your partner will love the thought and attention that goes into the present. And a special, off-theme gift or an object that they've been coveting are also great options.
Meet the Expert
Julie Blais Comeau is an etiquette expert and author with more than a decade of experience.
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