Everything You Need to Know About Alec and Hilaria Baldwin's Relationship

"30 Rock" star has jumped to defend his wife amidst controversy

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Alec Baldwin has got his wife’s back. He was quick to defend his wife amidst accusations that she is faking her Spanish heritage.

After she posted several videos to Instagram to clarify her background and upbringing, Alec posted his own video calling out media outlets and defending his wife—without really ever saying it. 

He also posted the Mark Twain quote, “A lie can travel half way around the world while the truth is putting on its shoes,” seemingly about the situation. He even clapped back at a few negative users.

We love Alec’s loyalty to his wife of eight years. So where did their love story begin? We’re taking a look back at their relationship through the years.

2011: Meeting in Manhattan 

In 2011 the couple met by pure chance at Pure Food and Wine, a restaurant in New York City. In honor of their 8-year anniversary of being together Alec posted to Instagram writing, “8 years ago, I wandered into Pure Food and Wine on Irving Place, on an unseasonably warm February evening. My friend, @bocartist and I sat down (outside!) and as I turned to my left I saw a woman who would change my life. Entirely. 8 years today. Thanks for all you’ve given me. You are a gift.”

Hilaria also spoke to The New York Times about their meeting saying “I was standing near the door with my friends when he walked up and took my hand and said, ‘I must know you.’ ‘You must know me?’” she replied, “And then he gave me his card.”

2011: Early Stages of Dating

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During an interview for BEACH Magazine, the yoga instructor revealed to actress Mariska Hargitay that she wasn’t sure the 30 Rock alum was romantically interested at first. “He didn’t kiss me for six weeks!” she said. “He shook my hands for six weeks. We’d have the most romantic dinner date, and afterward he’d drop me off at my house and  shake my hand. I’d proceed to go upstairs, and my girlfriends would call me and say, ‘Anything yet?’ and I’d say, ‘Nope, nope, nope.’ Then they’d say, ‘Maybe he just wants to be friends.’”

2011-2012: Moving in Together

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Despite their 26-year-old age difference and taking things slow in the beginning, the couple became serious before long. According to BEACH Magazine, they moved in together after just five months of dating. “I think we knew fairly soon because we built a real relationship very early on,” she said in the interview. “We got to know each other in a way I think most people forgo if they start dating first, then learn about each other after.”

June 2012: She Says Yes!

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Shortly after, Alec proposed—at a lighthouse to be exact—and the two were married in June 2012 at the Basilica of St. Patrick’s Old Cathedral in New York City. The actor was previously married to Kim Basinger and had been single since his 2002 divorce because he hadn’t been ready to take that next step, until he met Hilaria, he told The New York Times. “I’ve dated a lot of people since my divorce, and have thought a lot about what I wanted and what I wanted to do,” Alec said. “I thought about it too much, I suppose. I wasn’t really ready to take that chance and to act until I met Hilaria.”

August 2013: Carmen Gabriela Baldwin Is Born 

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In August 2013, the couple welcomed their first child together. 

“We are overjoyed to announce the birth of our daughter Carmen Gabriela,” Hilaria shared on Twitter. “She is absolutely perfect.

This was Hilaria’s first child and Alec’s second, as he shares Ireland Baldwin with his ex Basinger. In 2019, Hilaria opened up about becoming a stepmom through an Instagram post.

“I love my stepdaughter as much as I love my biological children and I become a mommy lioness when I see comments that insinuate otherwise,” she wrote. “Having a stepchild is a delicate matter. Especially one who is grown. I think my relationship with her has been so successful because I never tried to step in as her mommy. She has a good mother, who I have tremendous respect for...and I put myself in Kim’s shoes: if my children ever had a stepmother, I’d want her to let me be number one.”

2015-2020: More Babies!

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The couple have since welcomed four more children: Rafael Thomas Baldwin in June 2015, Leonardo Ángel Charles Baldwin in September 2016, Romeo Alejandro David Baldwin in May 2018, and most recently, Eduardo Pau Lucas Baldwin, who was born this past September. (More later on his welcome to the world!) 

November 2016: We Get A Peek Inside Home Life—And Parenting Styles

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In a 2016 feature with Elle Decor.com, we got a glimpse of their life together in their renovated 18th-century farmhouse in East Hampton, New York. Alec even opened up about Hilaria’s “patient” parenting style.

"It's a generational thing," Alec told Elle Decor.com. "I'm a lot older, and when I grew up there was none of this bargaining and negotiating you do with kids now. Making them understand. My father was like 'Oh, I'll make you understand!' My mother used to hit us with a curtain rod, you know, people used to hit their kids with kitchen utensils. But [Hilaria] is the best mommy, she respects them, she honors them."

April and November 2019: Hilaria Opens Up About Suffering Miscarriages

Hilaria posted a picture to Instagram of her touching her bump in April 2019 writing, “I want to share with you that I am most likely experiencing a miscarriage. I always promised myself that if I were to get pregnant again, I would share the news with you guys pretty early, even if that means suffering a public loss.”

She also wrote that she wanted to help other women who were going through the same thing. “I think it’s important to show the truth...because my job is to help people by being real and open. Furthermore, I have no shame or embarrassment with this experience. I want to be a part of the effort to normalize miscarriage and remove the stigma from it.”

Sadly a few days later Hilaria shared that she had lost the baby.

She shared that she suffered another miscarriage in November 2019. She posted a video with her daughter Carmen to Instagram writing, “We are very sad to share that today we learned that our baby passed away at 4 months. We also want you to know that even though we are not ok right now, we will be.”

September 2020: They Welcome Their 5th Child

Hilaria announced the birth of their newest addition on Instagram. “We had a baby last night,” she shared. “He is perfect and we couldn’t be happier.”

In a separate post, she shared the new baby’s name. “We would love to introduce you to Eduardo Pau Lucas Baldwin,” she wrote. “Born Sept 8, 2020 at 7:46pm he weighed 7lbs 8oz His name means ‘wealthy guardian of peace and light’. We love you baby Edu” 

December 2020: They Spend the Holidays Together as a Family

The family of seven all cozied up in matching plaid PJs and took an adorable photo on their couch in front of their Christmas tree. Hilaria posted the sweet moment to Instagram. "

"Almost all of us are looking!" she wrote. "We hope you had a Merry Christmas"

December 2020: Alec Defends His Wife Amidst Controversy

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A viral Twitter thread accused Hilaria of faking her Spanish heritage and accent. She has since shared several videos to clarify her background—she was born in Boston and grew up in both the USA and Spain.

“I was born in Boston and grew up spending time with my family between Massachusetts and Spain,” she wrote alongside the video. “My parents and sibling live in Spain and I chose to live here, in the USA. We celebrate both cultures in our home—Alec and I are raising our children bilingual, just as I was raised.”

Her hubby also weighed in on the situation with an Instagram video—though he never explicitly stated exactly what he was talking about. He called out specific media sources for sharing false statements and encouraged his followers to “consider the source.”

“There's things that have been said lately about people that I love, that I care about deeply, which are ridiculous. I mean, just ridiculous,” he said.

He ended the video whispering, “When you love somebody, you want to defend them. Consider the source.”

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