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A Lush Wedding in Seattle Filled With Personal Touches

Planned by It’s Your Day Events.

When Alexa Romero and James Adams met on Bumble in November 2015, they had an instant connection. Their chemistry was so strong online that they wanted to see if it measured up off. Even though the exact location of their first date is up for debate, one thing’s for certain—they both felt the spark. “If you ask me, I will say that our first date was at a sushi restaurant in Westwood in LA, but if you ask James, he will say it was at a Justin Bieber concert,” Alexa recounts. “His friend, who was eventually our groomsman, had free tickets from work, and James thought it would be a funny way to impress me. The rest is history!”

Five years later, the pair was in the middle of planning a trip to New Zealand when a global pandemic threw a wrench in their travel plans—and James’s plan to propose. Instead of jetting overseas, they decided to take a road trip from Santa Cruz to Los Angeles. “James was adamant about wanting to take sunrise pictures in Big Sur, and I could tell he was acting weird,” Alexa recalls. “He was asking me what I planned to wear, said we had fancy breakfast reservations after the photos, and kept checking his backpack religiously.” 

Once they stopped at the site James had been raving about, Alexa noticed a woman with a professional camera taking photos. “I thought to myself, ‘This is the secret spot? There’s already someone here!’” she remembers. “I sped up to joke about it with James, but he was walking too fast for me to keep up.” Once Alexa finally caught up with her boyfriend on top of the hill, she saw a picnic basket filled with Champagne, donuts, and flowers. “Everything clicked in that moment, and the photographer from earlier was triumphantly snapping photos of us as James got down on one knee,” she reflects. “It was the most magical, romantic moment. And that early in Big Sur, it felt like we were on top of the clouds.”

Alexa and James's lush invitations wrapped in pressed flowers and tulle ribbon

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

After basking in that extraordinary occurrence, the duo started dreaming up their big day. Of course, planning their nuptials during a pandemic had its fair share of challenges, such as constantly amending their guest list to keep up with their venue’s ever-changing capacity limits. However overall, the couple thoroughly enjoyed the process, the creative outlet it gave them, and the memories they created. “All that time at home afforded me the space and opportunity to connect with the creative side of myself,” Alexa notes. “It was much more therapeutic and fun than I’d thought it would be. Sure, it was planning a wedding, but I think we actually learned a lot about ourselves and each other during the process.”

On September 25, 2021, Alexa and James swapped vows in front of 65 guests at The Ruins by Landmark Event Co. in Seattle. Keep scrolling to reveal all of the stunning details from their nuptials, which was planned by It’s Your Day Events and photographed by Jacqueline Benét.

Although the pair didn’t follow a cohesive theme, they had a certain vision in mind that spoke to them as a couple. “I wanted the ceremony room to feel like The Secret Garden meets Versailles, and the reception to feel like The Great Gatsby meets Cinderella,” the bride shares. “Maybe the theme seems all over the place, but it made so much sense to us.” For their color palette, Alexa and James played off of their vibrant venue. “Our scheme was somewhat muted with lots of creamy neutrals with touches of blush, gold, and olive green,” she remarks. Alexa gave guests a glimpse into her wedding design by gluing pressed flowers to her lush invitations, wrapping them in chiffon ribbon, and affixing them with a wax seal. 

Alexa in white pajama set getting ready with her bridesmaids in silk pajamas

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

Alexa spent the morning of her wedding day getting ready with her bridesmaids. While the bride sported a white pajama set tied with sky blue ribbon, her squad donned silk pajamas in shades of pink and rust. After the rehearsal dinner, the group got their nails done for the special day. “I opted for white gel for something simple and classic,” she says.

Alexa's A-line floral wedding dress with a tulle skirt

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

This felt like it was made for my body.

Alexa's mother kissing her daughter

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

Alexa found her A-line gown with a floral corset top and tulle skirt while dress shopping at Netta BenShabu’s trunk show with her mother. “I knew the moment I put it on,” she gushes. “Every other dress had been beautiful but maybe unflattering for various reasons. This felt like it was made for my body.” The experience was even more special because the designer made an appearance at her trunk show. “It was so exciting to meet and talk with the designer,” Alexa conveys. “I’m really into fashion, and like many others, I’ve been dreaming about my wedding dress forever. So this was one of those ‘Is this my life or a movie right now?’ moments.” For her own personal touch, the bride added a sparkly underlay to the dress.

Alexa's "something blue" wedding heels with silver embroidery

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

No dress is complete without accessories, and Alexa didn’t skimp on the extras. The bride strapped on blue heels with silver floral accents by Something Bleu. “My shoes were a big hit,” she mentions. For jewels, Alexa wore pearl drop earrings from EandEProject from Etsy, a nod to her mother’s pearl wedding dress. Her diamond ring also made an appearance.

Alexa's old Hollywood-inspired waves and natural makeup

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

To prep her skin for the wedding, the bride got a hydrafacial and a lymphatic face and body massage. Alexa wanted a natural beauty look, so she chose airbrush makeup for a flawless complexion. “I don’t wear a lot of makeup normally, so I wanted to recognize myself–just a bit more elegant and romantic,” she expresses. A coat of Charlotte Tilbury’s Pillow Talk lipstick and a spritz of Nostalgia Eau De Parfum finished off her look. For her hairstyle, Alexa went with loose waves fastened with a crystal hair pin from BHLDN. “I wanted something timeless and elegant that also showed off my long hair,” she explains.

Alexa's A-line wedding dress with a floral bodice and tulle skirt

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

Alexa's floral embroidered corset top and sparkly tulle skirt

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

Alexa's embroidered phrases on her dress

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

The bride’s favorite detail? The engraving of phrases, such as ‘Truly Madly Deeply,’ ‘Soulmates,’ and ‘Mi Amour’ on her dress. “I went out searching for a dress with subtle writing all over it, knowing that might be impossible, so I was stunned when I found this dress,” she reveals. 

Alexa's first look with her bridesmaids who are wearing olive green

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

After Alexa changed into her attire, she shared a first look with her bridesmaids. Each member of her bridal party channeled an olive green gown in the style of her choice. “It was really important to me that my bridesmaids felt comfortable and themselves in their outfits,” Alexa expands. “I love, love the way it all turned around. It looked cohesive, but everyone also looked so good on their own.” 

Alexa and James sharing a first look

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

We knew that we couldn’t do this big moment without checking in on each other first.

Alexa revealing her dress to James for the first time

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

Alexa also savored a first look with her soon-to-be husband. “We are each other’s best friend,” Alexa illuminates. “We knew that we couldn’t do this big moment without checking in on each other first.” Their first look ended up being the perfect way to decompress before the ceremony. “It calmed our nerves just being able to see each other after such a hectic morning.”

Alexa and James taking couple portraits after their first look

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

Alexa and James kissing during their first look

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

For his attire, James sported a black velvet tuxedo jacket by Valentino, black trousers from Paul Smith, and black tuxedo shoes from Common Projects.

Alexa and James hugging during portraits

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

Alexa and James taking photos in the library

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

After their first look, Alexa and James had some extra time before the ceremony, so they snapped more photos in the venue’s library. “I’m a librarian, so to do a wedding photoshoot in a library was an absolute dream,” the bride exclaims. “By that point too, our nerves had started to settle, and we were getting excited for the rest of the day. I think you can tell in the photos.”

Alexa and James's ceremony setting covered in greenery

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

Alexa and James's aisle lined with greenery and votive candles

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

Alexa and James's gold horse painted with florals and wearing greenery

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

An aisle lined with pillar candles and greenery led to a fireplace altar, which the couple had decorated with an eye-catching floral arrangement. “I wanted the flowers to look almost wild or unkempt, like you’re walking straight into an indoor garden,” the bride describes. A grand chandelier covered in vines hung above the space.

Alexa and James with their wedding party

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

James and his groomsmen wearing black tuxedos and bow ties

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

James’s groomsmen all donned classic black tuxedos from The Black Tux. They accessorized with black bow ties and eucalyptus boutonnieres with bunny tail accents to match the groom.

Alexa and her bridesmaids carrying bouquets of orchids, dahlias, roses, and bunny tails

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

The bride carried a cascading bouquet of dahlias, roses, orchids, lisianthus, baby’s breath, Queen Anne’s lace, cosmos, and bunny tail in light and airy tones. Her bridesmaids’ arrangements of blooms were smaller versions wrapped in silk ribbon. 

James walking down the aisle with both of his parents

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

A string trio played “God Only Knows” by The Beach Boys while James made his way to the altar. During his procession, both of his parents stood on either side of him.

Alexa walking down the aisle with her dad

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

Alexa walking down the aisle with her dad

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

For the bride’s entrance, Alexa linked arms with her father. He honored his heritage by wearing a barong, the traditional Filipino shirt for men. “Isn’t She Lovely” by Stevie Wonder filled the room as they walked down the aisle

Alexa and James holding hands at the altar

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

Alexa reading personalized vows to James

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

Alexa and James during the ring exchange ceremony

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

During the ceremony, the twosome recited personal vows that reflected their relationship. “We made a lot of promises to each other that were filled with inside jokes, like adopting a house full of dachshunds and never throwing away a leftover burrito,” Alexa reminisces. “We still bring up these promises today!”

Alexa and James during Filipino veil ceremony

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

Alexa and James during candle lighting unity ceremony

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

The couple also customized their ceremony by incorporating Filipino traditions. During the veil and cord ritual, the duo’s godparents draped a wedding veil over their shoulders to symbolize being dressed as one entity. The candle lighting ritual represented their union and the blending of their two families. “We even used the veil, cord, and unity candle holder from my parents’ wedding in 1991,” Alexa shares. 

Alexa and James kissing after the ceremony

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

Alexa and James kissing during the recessional

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

After sealing their marraige with a kiss, the newlyweds recessed to “Here Comes the Sun” by the Beatles.

Alexa adding bows to her dress for the reception

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

Alexa's outfit change with tulle ribbon on her straps

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

To switch up her attire for the reception, Alexa added detachable bows to her shoulder straps. The detail gave her gown an ethereal touch.

Alexa and James's wedding guest book table

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

As a tribute to their honeymoon destination, friends and family wrote congratulatory messages in The Monocle Book of Italy, which served as their guest book. The pair also had loved ones sign Seattle postcards to honor their wedding setting.

Alexa and James's library-inspired escort cards

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

Since the bride works as a librarian, it was only fitting that she assembled library-inspired escort cards. “I searched up and down the internet for a reasonably priced catalog drawer for the cards to live in,” Alexa says of her DIY escort card display. “I then used fake flowers and a foam board to fill the empty space in the catalog drawer to give that romantic, Cinderella-type feel.”

Alexa and James's DIY wedding bar sign with drawing of their dog

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

Alexa and James's spicy margarita signature cocktails with drink stirrers of their dog

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

Another DIY project that Alexa tackled was designing all of the day’s signage, including her drink menus. “I loved the look of different gold frames for signage,” she notes. On the bar sign, Alexa hand-drew a picture of the couple’s dog Arlo. They named their spicy margarita signature drink after their beloved pet. The wooden drink stirrers even featured their furry friend. 

Alexa and James's reception room painted with murals on the walls

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

The moment I saw a photo of the ballroom at The Ruins, I knew it was the place right away.

Alexa and James's reception setting covered in hand-painted murals

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

“I remember the moment I saw a photo of the ballroom at The Ruins, I knew it was the place right away,” Alexa recalls. “We loved how eclectic, colorful, and unique it was. It felt like a sophisticated fun house, which sounded like the perfect environment to bring our friends and family together after two years of Covid. I can’t tell you how many guests said, ‘This venue is so you.’” Since the room was covered in hand-painted murals, the newlyweds selected minimal décor to let the space speak for itself. 

Alexa and James's tables with floral centerpieces, gold candles, and table numbers

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

Each table housed floral centerpieces, white votive and taper candles in gold candle holders, and deckle-edged table numbers to complement the venue. 

Alexa and James's sweetheart table with orchids and greenery

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

The bride and groom had their sweetheart table decorated with more taper candles and draped in greenery and white orchids. 

James making a toast at the reception

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

For the main entrée, guests chose braised beef short ribs, pan seared salmon, or polenta triangles for the vegetarian and vegan option. They also noshed on sides, such as a house salad, roasted fall vegetables, and herb roasted fingerling potatoes. During dinner, the couple shared a few words of gratitude to their guests.

Alexa and James's three-tier white cake decorated with pressed flowers

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

Alexa and James's three-tier cake decorated with pressed flowers

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

Alexa and James kissing in front of their cake pressed with flowers

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

For dessert, Alexa and James selected a three-tier white cake covered in colorful pressed flowers and topped with a gold cake topper that showcased their new last name. Inside was ube cake with ube filling to honor the bride’s Filipino culture, and vanilla cake with strawberry filling.

Alexa and James's first dance

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

Alexa and James holding hands and laughing while dancing

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

The duo spun around the dance floor to “My Favorite Part” by Mac Miller and Ariana Grande for their first dance

Alexa dancing with her bridesmaids on the dance floor

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

Kitman from Integral DJs played a soundtrack that set the mood for the evening. “It was great because he’d play music for who was on the dance floor,” Alexa explains. “At one point, it was all my girlfriends, and he played, ‘Miracles Happen,’ ‘Say My Name,’ and ‘Wannabe’ all in succession. It was truly a moment I’ll never forget.

Alexa and James kissing on the dance floor

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

“The last dance of the night wasn’t meant to be just James and I, but it ended up that way,” the bride remarks. “Our DJ played ‘All My Life’ by K-Ci and JoJo, which James loves to joke serenade to me. So, that’s exactly what happened–just the two of us on the dance floor, laughing and joke singing, basically forgetting anyone else was there.”

Alexa and James holding hands at the end of the night

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

Alexa and James kissing in their getaway car

Photo by Jacqueline Benet

For the happy couple, their special day was pure bliss. The reason why? They focused on the big picture instead of getting lost in the minute details. They advise that other couples planning a wedding follow suit. Alexa reveals, “My husband and I have so many amazing memories from our wedding, but most of them revolve around experiences and laughter with friends rather than the color of the linens or the amount of flowers.”

Wedding Team

Vendor The Ruins by Landmark Event Co.

Planner It’s Your Day Events

Officiant Rev. Ray Van Winkle & Associates

Bridal Gown Designer Netta BenShabu

Bridal Salon Kinsley James Couture Bridal

Bride’s Veil Toni Federici

Bride’s Jewelry EandEProject via Etsy

Bride’s Shoes Something Bleu

Bride’s Hair & Makeup Bridal Beauty Agency

Bride’s Rehearsal Dinner Attire LavenirBoutiqueBridal via Etsy

Bridesmaids’ Dresses BHLDN

Mother of the Bride’s Dress JJ’s House

Groom’s Attire Valentino

Groomsmen’s Attire The Black Tux

Engagement Ring Mark Broumond

Wedding Bands Anna Sheffiled

Floral Design Nadira Design

Invitations Minted

Welcome Sign LoandBeholdPress via Etsy

Guest Book The Monocle Book of Italy

Escort Cards theBirdandtheBeard via Etsy

Music Seattle String Quartet; Integral DJs

Catering The Ruins by Landmark Event Co.

Cocktail Stirrers OccasionalPaperCuts via Etsy

Cake Morfey’s Cake

Cake Topper Rawkrft via Etsy

Rentals The Ruins by Landmark Event Co.

Transportation British Motor Coach Inc.

Photography Jacqueline Benét

Videography Without End Films

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