Q & A

Q. We mailed my wedding invitations two weeks ago, but my aunt and maid of honor never received theirs. How do we ensure that all our guests got an invite?

A. Regardless of why it happened—insufficient postage, wrong addresses or just a random post office foul-up—you'll need to get in touch with everyone on your list. First, you and your groom should call your close relatives, as well as your attendants, to make sure they received their invites. Set up a phone tree for the rest of the guests. Give your attendants and siblings a list of 15 to 20 guests each, their phone numbers and a script to work from: "Hi, I'm Jim Parillo, a groomsman in Frank Diaz and Cindy Kelly's wedding. I'm calling because some people on the guest list didn't receive their invitations. It's on Saturday, May 23, at 5:30 p.m. at the Bolton Lake Country Club. After you check your calendar, could you get back to them with a note or a quick e-mail one way or the other? They can give you directions and the rest of the details if you need them. I hope I'll be able to see you there."

Q. How can I dress up a standard invitation?

A. Use envelopes and boxes lined with lace or colored silk, suggests Ellen Black, co-owner of Lehr and Black invitationers in Los Angeles. Envelopes made entirely of lotus silk (which is thin and flat) and boxes covered in linen or silk doupioni (a perfect fabric for embroidering a logo or meaningful quote) are ultrachic packaging options. Fasten your envelopes with a wax seal in yellow, teal or pink to make your invites even more memorable. (Source: Elegant Bride magazine)

Q. What are some creative ways to send out thank-you cards?

A. A good thank-you note will convey gratitude with warmth, sincerity and a personal touch. Above all, it should be enthusiastic and conversational. Sound difficult when you've got 100 to write? Here are five fresh ideas: Picture notes—have cards printed with a photo of you and your groom. Themed cards—for a destination wedding, use cards with local flavor. Correspondence cards—traditional white or cream heavy-stock cards are a great choice; they look full with just a few lines of text. Personalized cards—send cards with your first names before the wedding; if you're changing your name, send "Mr. and Mrs." ones afterward. Matching notes—order thank-yous in the same style as your invites. Add a playful graphic for a personal touch. (Source: Modern Bride magazine)

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