From the moment she started planning her wedding, Eva Hoffman had three priorities: a spring celebration, a Hamptons, New York, setting and a no-gifts policy. "Since this was my second marriage, I wanted to do something different," says the bride. That meant suggesting that guests make a donation to the Ruth Yucht Kroll Memorial Fund instead of giving traditional presents. "Ruthie was my best friend’s mom and a second mother to me," explains Eva. "Everyone in our community loved her. The memorial fund was established to keep her passion for education alive." Contributions to the endowment, which is administered by the Jewish Community Foundation of Greater Middlesex, New Jersey, go toward funding religious studies for adult women.

The tribute added a sentimental touch to Eva’s nuptials to Ken Cornick, whom she met on a blind date. They decided to have an alfresco affair in the charming seaside Long Island village where Ken spent childhood summers. On a warm day in May, 150 guests gathered on the patio of the East Hampton Point restaurant for a traditional Jewish ceremony. Afterward, the party moved indoors for a seated dinner of miso-glazed halibut, risotto cakes and whoopee pies. A jiving band provided the evening’s entertainment. "Our wedding truly reflected Ken and me as a couple," recalls Eva. "And it also gave us the chance to do something for others and remember Ruthie."

A couple passes up presents in favor of a loving tribute to a mentor

From the moment she started planning her wedding, Eva Hoffman had three priorities: a spring celebration, a Hamptons, New York, setting and a no-gifts policy. "Since this was my second marriage, I wanted to do something different," says the bride. That meant suggesting that guests make a donation to the Ruth Yucht Kroll Memorial Fund instead of giving traditional presents. "Ruthie was my best friend’s mom and a second mother to me," explains Eva. "Everyone in our community loved her. The memorial fund was established to keep her passion for education alive." Contributions to the endowment, which is administered by the Jewish Community Foundation of Greater Middlesex, New Jersey, go toward funding religious studies for adult women.

The tribute added a sentimental touch to Eva’s nuptials to Ken Cornick, whom she met on a blind date. They decided to have an alfresco affair in the charming seaside Long Island village where Ken spent childhood summers. On a warm day in May, 150 guests gathered on the patio of the East Hampton Point restaurant for a traditional Jewish ceremony. Afterward, the party moved indoors for a seated dinner of miso-glazed halibut, risotto cakes and whoopee pies. A jiving band provided the evening’s entertainment. "Our wedding truly reflected Ken and me as a couple," recalls Eva. "And it also gave us the chance to do something for others and remember Ruthie."

A cluster of pink posies provides a blooming backdrop for a special donation card.