Proactive Planning or Insanity?

Some women are quietly securing their dress, cake, flowers... Now all they need is a fiancé.

Alesha Williams, 24, has her wedding dress picked out: the Monique Lhuillier "Calista" gown, which she fell in love with when she tried it on at a trunk show last spring. She plans to get married in a museum, which will be decorated in shades of ivory, teal, and mocha; the DJ will play Miles Davis; and the getaway car will be a Lincoln. She's already selected a videographer and has even chosen the bakery that will design her cake.

Yes, Alesha has everything for her wedding all planned out. The only thing she doesn't yet have is a fiancé.

Some might consider this jumping the gun, but Alesha, a software-application analyst, has been fantasizing about her wedding since she met her boyfriend two years ago. Since then, she's subscribed to three different wedding magazines and has collected ideas in anticipation of when the big day actually comes around. "I have it all in my head," she explains. "I love thinking about my wedding. I don't ever think it's silly to do this before I'm engaged. I'm just being prepared so that when the time comes, I don't waste any time."

Alesha is not alone. For every radiant fiancée preparing the perfect wedding, there are a dozen early-bird brides who are planning their dream day, but who don't have an engagement ring on their finger—nor, perhaps, even a boyfriend.

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