7 Wedding Mistakes to Avoid
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"If only we'd had a minute or two together at the wedding reception!"
It's ironic, really. You exchange your vows at the ceremony, completely focused on each other. And then you walk back up the aisle and are whisked away to take a few photos, and then to a wedding reception where a hundred or so guests are eager to talk to you. There are dances with parents, and special toasts from friends. You will sit next to each other to eat, but you won't have a chance for more than a few words. All evening long, you will grab an occasional kiss, exchange a brief expression of appreciation, and then be swept apart again by the tides of your party.
At the end of the night, you will be reunited, of course. But wouldn't it be nice to have spent at least a few minutes in private celebration? These days, more and more wedding consultants are encouraging couples to steal a few minutes after the ceremony, to be alone and happy.
In fact, Jewish tradition dictates that immediately after the ceremony, the couple spend some time very much alone. Savvy brides and grooms of all backgrounds know a good thing when they see it and have adopted the custom themselves.
After the I do's, head off to a quiet room (preferably with a lock on the door so you won't be interrupted by Aunt Jane looking for her purse) at the ceremony site. After about 15 minutes, you can re-emerge to greet your adoring public.
"If only I had prepared a speech or a toast."
Ever been to a wedding where the best man makes a nice toast, and that inspires the maid of honor to make one, too? Then her toast moves the groom to stand up, or maybe the bride does. But he or she doesn't actually have anything prepared, so the speech goes on, and rambles over eight topics, and the jokes fall flat. Not a shining moment.
Always prepare your toast. If you don't plan on toasting each other and your parents and wedding party at the rehearsal, then do so at the wedding. But never, ever wing it.
"If only I hadn't spent the night before the wedding writing out 200 place cards and baking my own wedding cake."
Martha Stewart madness tends to set in early in the wedding plans. You see these fabulous weddings in her magazine and think I could do that! I love to bake, and I own a glue gun. Determined either to save a few bucks or to add that personal touch to your wedding (or both), you take on the enormous project of creating something that you know must be just perfect because you only have one wedding day. The pressure, needless to say, is intense.
Here's the lecture: a wedding cake should only be created by someone who has studied the craft and who has created many other cakes before yours. It should also be created by someone other than a stressed-out bride who is worried about her hair, about the flower arrangements, and about her gown alterations. Wedding cake specialists all have stories of frantic phone calls on the wedding morning in regard to homemade cakes that taste awful, that flopped over, that simply are not working out. And very few bakers can supply a cake on such short notice.