Choosing a wedding cake is often no cake walk (har, har, har). We asked our wedding etiquette experts some tough questions, from when to cut the cake, to what to serve instead of cake.

Do we have to have a wedding cake? My fiancé and I much prefer ice cream or pastries.

The wedding-cake police won't raid your reception if you do without a big, layered confection. But in addition to the Baskin-Robbins, serve a sweet you can both cut into and feed each other to symbolize the start of your shared life. "You could do different desserts arranged on a staggered cake stand, which will make them stand out," says Jan Kish, owner of Jan Kish Le Petite Fleur in Columbus, Ohio. Consider an all-white variety, like coconut cream pie, cheesecake, and white chocolate mousse, or assorted pies—cherry, blueberry, lemon chiffon. Yum.

Photo: Becky Young Photography

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