Wedding Etiquette Tips for Brides: Engagement
Our experts share can't miss tips for brides and weigh in on tricky, frequently asked engagement questions like "What do I do if I hate my ring?" and more.
When I told my two (single) best friends that I'm engaged, I expected them to be happy for me—but they seem jealous instead. It really hurts my feelings. How can I deal?
We're so sorry. This is not the reaction you want during one of the happiest times of your life. Know that this is not about you and so totally about them. Weddings bring up crazy stuff for people. Despite our best, most zen-minded intentions, we are constantly measuring ourselves against others, especially our peers. In this case, you've just announced that you are embarking on one of the most momentous rites of passage of your life. Your BFFs probably feel as if they're being left behind—and maybe losing you in the process, to boot. They may just need a minute to get a grip. Reach out to them, and make it clear that you want them to be with you every step of the way and that you will always need your girlfriends. (Note: Whatever you do, do not accuse them of being jealous of you. That's going to make them feel defensive and make you look like a raving bridezilla.) If these two are really your best friends, they're going to give you a giant hug, tell you they love you, and jump on that joy train. If they're still being surly, back off and start looking elsewhere for bridesmaids. You do not need any negativity with you in the dressing room on your big day.Photo: Getty Images