Q: We were married over a year ago but never had a wedding celebration. Now we're having a vow renewal to celebrate our marriage. Is it okay to register for gifts?

A: Reaffirmation ceremonies or renewal of vows used to be the purview of the silver and gold anniversary set to commemorate a milestone anniversary. But now, it's a trend many couples embrace as a way to acknowledge their ongoing commitment or to mark the passage of a particularly difficult or joyful time. Another great reason to renew vows is to do just what you're suggesting: have the big celebration you missed the first time. At this kind of a belated celebration, guests are not expected to give the couple gifts. One of the primary purposes of wedding gifts is to help a couple set up their life together. Since you've been married for more than a year, a gift registry may make it look like you're more interested in the loot rather than the opportunity to celebrate this milestone with those closest to you. You'll probably find that family and close friends want to give you a gift anyway, and that's fine. If you're repeatedly asked about what you'd like for a wedding gift, that may be reason to establish a small gift registry. If guests do bring gifts to the party, set them aside to avoid causing discomfort for guests who didn't bring a gift, and wait to open them until later. —Anna Post, The Emily Post Institute

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