Q: I'm pregnant—can I have a big wedding? And should we invite the family members who are against it?

A: If you want a big wedding, then go for it! The old rules that say a bride with a child should have a quick-and-dirty ceremony are just that, old. If it's important to you and your fiancé that these family members be present, a compromise would be best: Have a small-scale reception after the ceremony and invite the relatives to that. A few weeks later, have a huge blowout with the friends and family who support you. That way you'll get to have your big wedding—but without the big drama.

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