Q: I'm having a destination wedding. One of my bridesmaids has confided that she can't afford to make the trip. Should I pay for her? I really want her to be there, but it seems unfair to the others.

A: It would certainly be nice of you, and no one else needs to know. Before booking her ticket, though, you should consider whether your other bridesmaids might be in the same financial boat and are too embarrassed to speak up. Instead of bankrolling one bridesmaid's whole trip, it might be more fair to offset some of the travel expenses for the entire bridal party—even if that just means paying for taxis from the airport and breakfasts each day. If your poverty-pleading bridesmaid still can't cough up the dough to make the trip, ask whether having a roommate (it's up to you to find one) to split the hotel costs would help her out.

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