Q: I've been invited to a destination wedding, and while I'm excited to go, it's going to a cost a lot. Do I still give a wedding gift to the couple too?

A: Every wedding invitation carries the obligation to give a gift. Ideally you should send it before the wedding, to either the bride or the couple, if they live together. You can also mail it to the newlyweds within a month after they return from their honeymoon. (It's a myth that you have up to a year to give a wedding present.) If you're spending a lot to attend the event, you may go for a less expensive item or something you've made yourself—often the most meaningful present costs very little. But do get the couple something. While your attendance at a wedding so far from home is a wonderful gift in itself—the idea that "your presence is your present"—a small but heartfelt token is always appropriate, even if you opt for something less costly. There is no price range, as it's too different for each person and their situation. Let your travel-reduced budget and your relationship to the couple be your guide. —Anna Post, The Emily Post Institute

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