Q: Do we have to have a wedding cake? My fiancé and I much prefer ice cream or pastries.

A: The wedding-cake police won't raid your reception if you do without a big, layered confection. But in addition to the Baskin-Robbins, serve a sweet you can both cut into and feed each other to symbolize the start of your shared life. "You could do different desserts arranged on a staggered cake stand, which will make them stand out," says Jan Kish, owner of Jan Kish Le Petite Fleur in Columbus, Ohio. Consider an all-white variety, like coconut cream pie, cheesecake, and white chocolate mousse, or assorted pies—cherry, blueberry, lemon chiffon. Yum.

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