Q: Is there a traditional shape for a groom's cake? I'd like to order one that looks like the Tower of Pisa, which is where my fiancé proposed.

A: Unlike the bride's cake, which is usually white, the groom's cake was originally a single-layer fruitcake that was boxed for guests to take home. (A single woman who slept with it under her pillow would supposedly dream of her future husband.) Nowadays, it's usually baked in the groom's favorite flavor, and often in a shape that reflects one of his hobbies or interests. So if you've got a baker who can create a Tower of Pisa, go for it.

See all questions about wedding cakes etiquette

Give a Subscription to Brides Magazine as a Gift

Get personalized planning advice, exclusive offers and must-read wedding news.

Thank You
for Signing Up!

Check your e-mail inbox for the latest updates from brides.com