A: No. This is your wedding, not a political primary. And besides, once you've asked someone to be an attendant, you can't un-ask her. Consider why your friend isn't jumping for joy regarding your wedding. Is she busy with school? Working long hours? Raising a family? Even though the wedding is likely the most important thing in your life right now, it's probably not in hers. So get a little perspective. If being busy isn't the reason for her aloofness, could she be jealous? If that's the case, go easy on her and don't dominate your time together with talk of flower palettes and china patterns.