Q: I love my cousin, but she's really overweight and I'd rather that she be a reader than wear the supercute bubble dresses that I've chosen for the bridesmaids. My sister thinks I'm being a control freak, but I want my day to be perfect. Who's right?

A: Your sister. Think about how you would feel if someone told you that you couldn't be a bridesmaid because your hair is blond and the bride wants only brunettes. If you and your cousin are close, ask her to be a bridesmaid, and think about tweaking the dresses—that bubble style that you like so much may also come in an A-line silhouette that would look more flattering on her.

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