Q: I want my bridesmaids to look as uniform as possible, including the type of makeup they wear, and they're giving me grief about it. Am I being unreasonable?

A: The identical-bridesmaid rule has gone the way of Melrose Place. Besides, if your attendants have different skin tones and hair color, chances are they'll look less than gorgeous in the same shades, especially in photographs. If you're concerned that one friend needs to finally buy a lipstick, while another would benefit from lessons on using a lighter touch with the blush, handle the issue discreetly by treating everyone to a prenup session with a makeup artist and hairstylist—or go for free makeovers at a department store makeup counter.

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