Q: Do I have to have my fiancé's close female friend as one of my bridesmaids?

A: That choice, ultimately, is yours. Generally, bridesmaids are family members or close pals. If your fiancé's friend is neither, and you don't feel comfortable including her in your party, why not have her stand up on his side instead? It's not necessary to arrange your wedding party with girls on one side and boys on the other. This can also open up more options for you. Wouldn't your favorite cousin Kevin be surprised if you asked him to be one of your 'bridesmen'? If it makes sense, go for the coed line up—more and more couples are doing just that. However, if you and your hubby-to-be want to keep things more traditional, you can always find another special role for her: Invite her to read at the ceremony or to give a toast at the reception. Also, make sure she gets a corsage so everyone knows she's a VIF (Very Important Friend).

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