Q: We're on a tight budget, do we need to invite the out-of-town guests to the rehearsal dinner?

A: Out-of-towners can be invited if your budget and the circumstances allow, but it's by no means a must. Traditionally, the rehearsal consists of the bride and groom, all attendants and their spouses or partners, the couple's immediate families, and the officiant and his or her spouse. However, in our increasingly mobile society, with so many people traveling to attend weddings, inviting out-of-towners has become a trend. If you choose to include some and not others, do so in a clear-cut way—for instance, only relatives but not friends. As a thoughtful gesture toward those not included, you might offer recommendations for local restaurants. One of your attendants or someone who lives in the area (perhaps a helpful aunt) may wish to take this on. Or you can send local information by mail, email, or post it on your wedding website. —Anna Post, The Emily Post Institute

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