Q: My future mother-in-law refuses to include her sister on our guest list. Should I invite her anyway? I really don't think it's proper to exclude my fiancé's aunt—she'll certainly find out about the wedding.

A: Don't do anything until you talk to your fiancé and find out what his relationship is with his aunt. If he wants to invite her, he should be the one to talk to his mother about it. If both your fiancé and his mother agree that they don't want their relative to attend, follow their lead and keep her off the list.

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