Q: My fiancé and I decided not to invite kids to the wedding. His mother wants us to bend the rule for one couple. I don't think that's fair. What should I do?

A: You're right to feel that making exceptions and playing favorites, especially with family, is inviting disaster. You and your fiancé need to agree to stick to your rule, and he should be the one to explain your joint decision to his mother.

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