Q: Instead of a maid of honor, I'm having a man of honor. Is he supposed to plan my shower?

A: We're assuming all of your attendants are running this part of the show. If so, yes, he should absolutely help plan and attend. (In these cases, the bridal party may opt to host a coed shower.) If he's accepted the man of honor role, he's probably expecting to participate, and if you've given him the leading wedding-party position, you should let him step up.

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