Q: Is it okay to invite my best male friends to my bridal shower?

A: Of course. But even men who are super in touch with their feminine sides would probably run screaming from the room if forced to endure a traditional shower, complete with girly games and an abundance of pink ribbon. A hipper, more inviting option is a coed party where, along with the usual female suspects, the groom, his male buddies, and assorted husbands and boyfriends congregate for a meal. Serve grown-up drinks like martinis and margaritas, and lose the lingerie in favor of fun presents with a his-and-hers theme. For example, the groom gets grilling tools; the bride gets a hammock. Another great group gift is a set of luggage for the honeymoon. Crank up the music and make sure someone's got a digital camera on hand. As long as you mix things up, everyone will have a blast at this all-inclusive party.

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