Q: Do I have to host a bridesmaids' luncheon?

A: In the midst of planning a rehearsal dinner, reception and possibly a next-day brunch, the thought of adding another party to your list can seem a little daunting. But it doesn't take much to throw this gig together. Start by asking your crew to save the date for a "bridesmaids appreciation day." Then, take your maids out for pizza and beer, and catch the latest chick flick together. Or, invite them over for dinner (or tasty takeout if cooking's not your thing), bust open a bottle of wine (or two!), bring out yearbooks and photo albums and spend the evening reminiscing.

You can also use this time to give your maids their attendants' gifts. One final note: This gathering should be wedding-activity free—meaning don't turn it into an assembly line for your wedding invitations or favors. The party's all about spending a little QT with your very best gals. If the whole thing still seems like more than you have the time and energy for, skip the get-together but do find some smaller way to show your 'maids your appreciation—a handwritten, heartfelt note and a small gift.

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