Q: Even though we're on a tight budget, my fiancé wants to treat all the guys to a pre-wedding baseball game and dinner. How do I convince him it's totally unnecessary?

A: When a couple plans a wedding, they're working from a pool of shared money—neither of you should be dipping into it for expenses you haven't agreed upon. However, if you intend to use part of the wedding fund to treat your maids to a similar outing (like a spa day or an evening of clubbing), he should be able to bankroll his boys' night. In that case, you need to sit down together and figure out how much money from the budget each of you can spend. Another idea: Have your fiancé pick up the tab for the baseball game and dinner in lieu of giving the guys groomsmen's gifts—a trade-off that'll make him happy and won't break the bank.

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