Q: I don't like the plans my MOH made for my bachelorette party (I'd rather go clubbing than hit the spa). Can I ask her to change them?

A: You can't, without sounding like a bridezilla. Look forward to all the pampering (trust me, the closer your wedding day gets, the more you'll appreciate that peach-scented foot massage), but let your friend know that you'd like to wind up the day by taking the whole group out for drinks and dancing at a trendy club. (Be prepared to pick up the tab—it's the decent thing to do, since the other girls are shelling out for the spa.) This way, you'll be able to get both your pampering and your partying on.

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