Q: Is it okay if we ask our families to serve food and tend bar during the reception? We're trying to keep our costs down.

A: So, you'd like some of your guests (yes, family members are guests) to spend your wedding day carrying platters and pouring beer. Sound like fun? Exactly. It's fine to have relatives shoulder a few easy jobs (making a quick run for more ice; manning the guest book), but no matter how tiny your budget, you must set aside enough money to hire a few helpers. Cut back on the flowers, skip the favors, but treat your guests like guests.

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