Q: My mother—who's paying for the wedding—wants the RSVPs to come to her house, but I want them to come to my apartment. What's the best solution?

A: While it is customary that the responses go to the address of the hostess, you want in on the fun, too, right? Ask your mother to keep them sealed until the two of you can get together and have a little grand opening party. Or, you might ask to have your mother's address go on the back of the main envelope—signifying that the invitation is formally from her—but have the response cards addressed to you. She may appreciate your thoughtful gesture of sparing her the task of keeping track of everyone's response.

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