Q: How can I turn down my mom's offer to address the invitations?

A: That's a very generous offer, since writing out a gazillion envelopes is both time-consuming and cramp-inducing. Let your mom know how grateful you are, but explain that you've decided on a professional calligrapher or that you're doing the job yourself. Since it sounds like she really wants to help out, it would be smart to find another task for her that's of similar significance. (Asking her to take charge of the guest book at the reception won't cut it.) Perhaps she could make or package the favors, or figure out the seating chart. There must be at least a couple of jobs not involving penmanship that your mom could happily take off your pre-wedding plate.

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