Four Terrible Things to Tell a Bride-to-Be

I think we can all agree that brides are nuts—they are, by and large, an irrational, over emotional, volatile segment of the population.

But what you may not have considered is that they rarely get that way by themselves. Often times, it's the people closest to the bride who contribute to her hysteria—usually without even realizing it, and almost always in the service of saying something they think will be incredibly helpful.

Here then, are four things to avoid saying to someone on the verge of being on the edge.


Well, aren't you helpful? The bride is already overwhelmed with ridiculous expectations, so by all means throw another log on the fire. Then she can spend her whole wedding day thinking that the best is already behind her, and she has nothing to look forward to. Hopefully she's registered for gas appliances, so she has a place to stick her head when she gets home.

A wedding should be only the first of many happy days, and should pale in comparison to all the days and years ahead. Personally, I think a much happier day is the day someone tells you they love you enough to put up with your crap for the rest of their life. And if you're as big a pain in the ass as I am, the wonder of that moment will never be surpassed.

Anyone who tells a bride that her wedding will be the apex of her happiness should be pelted with Jordan Almonds.


Don't encourage the bride to be demanding and unreasonable. It's not cute, and refusing to compromise is not a great way to start a life together. Besides, women who insist on getting everything they want usually get married more than once anyway.

3. "YOU SHOULD SPEND LESS ON _______ AND MORE ON _______."

People really like telling brides what to spend money on.

The food is more important than the music!
The dress is more important than the honeymoon!
The invitations are more important than the venue!

I realize this sort of advice is given with love, but it's extremely subjective and not all that helpful. In fact, it's pretty rude. Your judgments can plant seeds of doubt and guilt, and really suck the joy out of even the smallest things.

It's not your party. Just because you'd spend more on the linens and less on the flowers doesn't mean the bride should feel bad about wanting roses.

Remember, the road to shut the hell up is paved with good intentions.

April Winchell
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