Watch any number of our incredible real weddings videos, and you'll spot a common theme: Brides and grooms often exchange handwritten notes on the morning of their weddings. How sweet! If you want to copy this adorable gesture, but fear putting a pen to your own paper will only result in clichéd love quotes, rest easy — we've gathered expert advice on how to write a love letter than comes straight from the heart. "It's important to write out our feelings because very often we take it for granted that our partners know how we feel, when they may not," explains marriage therapist Dr. Jane Greer. "It's heartening to receive words of love in print because then you have the opportunity to read it over and over again. It's a way to constantly feel the love whenever you need it.
"This is particularly important on your wedding day because it's the day where you declare your love, and part of that is putting your love in writing as a way to have it endure for all time," she continues. "It keeps the uniqueness and specialness of your wedding alive."
So now that the pressure's on, here's what to keep in mind as you write:
There are no rules — but there are details.
"The best thing is to be open, honest, and speak from your heart," Greer advises. "Tell your partner how much you love them and especially why you love them, and what makes them so special, exceptional, and important to you."
Make a list of everything you want to convey first, so you don't leave something out.
"Some things a bride may want to say to the groom in her letter are how thrilled she is to be starting their life together, how happy she is to have found a soulmate with whom to share her life journey, and how delighted she is that he made her his choice and found in her the love and commitment that she shares with him," Greer offers as examples.
Write it when you're feeling inspired, but when you have several minutes to dedicate to the task.
"The night before or the morning of could both work, depending on the bride," Greer says. "Sometimes, it can be smart to do it ahead of time so it doesn't get lost in the hustle and bustle of the day. But on the other hand, you could do it after the wedding itself — you may have more special details and moments you may have shared during the wedding to weave into the letter and make it more meaningful."