If you're the first to get married in your social circle, you may find yourself on a proverbial island amongst your single friends. While your less-attached gal pals keep things fun, the fact of the matter is that "friendships tend to flourish between people who are in similar circumstances," explains Irene S. Levine, psychologist and professor of psychiatry at the New York University Langone School of Medicine, and creator of The Friendship Blog. Due to this, "newly married couples will often seek out married friends" she says.
You may think your single friends can support your new lifestyle, but your newfound desire to soak up as much time as you can with your spouse could put a damper on your Friday night plans. "It's often more convenient to have 'couple friends' who are navigating a similar transition in their lives" Levine says. "By virtue of both couples being newly married, they are experiencing many of the same adjustments," and they understand the need for your plus one to be ever-present. Having married friends means you don't have to choose between a girls night out and staying home with your husband, Levine points out. Additionally, she says, "having close 'couple friends' can feel like having an extended family, especially when biological families live some distance away. They can share holidays and vacations — cheers to each other's successes — and support one another during crises."
Of course, your single friends will still support you, but they "might not 'fit' in the exact same way," Levine cautions. Also "your single friends may be threatening to your husband or wife — moreover, whether it involves a married couple or not — three is always an awkward number."
Now that you're married, it's likely you'll have less time to nurture your friendships as your single friends do and that's why having other 'couple friends' is important. "Having married friends allows people to maintain friendships and still spend time with their spouses," Levine says.