Who wouldn't covet a crystal ball able to tell us our futures — including all the ins-and-outs of married life? Luckily for you, four brides have volunteered as your fortune tellers, willing to dish on what they wish they'd known before they tied the knot so that you can go into your marriage with your eyes open.
__Great married sex doesn't just happen — it takes work. __
"My married friends and I agree that sex as a married person takes so much more work," says one woman. "When we were all dating, it seemed effortless to turn our husband's on and to get turned on ourselves. But to get in the mood now takes creativity and effort. That's not to say sex is bad — it's not. It's still amazing. But one of my friends could have clued me in to just how easy it is to fall into a sex rut if you don't work at it."
"Sex on our honeymoon was hot," says another newlywed, "but since then, our sex life has become pretty routine. It was something I never thought would happen to us. It's like when people warn you that your wedding day will fly by and you nod along but secretly think to yourself, my day will be different, I'm going to soak it all in. But you're not the exception. You're the rule."
You'll need more alone time than you think you will.
"I thought a big point of getting married was that you didn't have to be alone anymore," says one woman. "But it really surprised me how much alone time I needed after we got married. I wish I had known to build in alone time from the start. We smothered one another those first few months, which led to a lot of frustration we could have avoided if we had known it's OK if you're not with each other 24/7."
It's so much fun.
"My friends constantly complain about their husbands and long for their single days," says another married woman. "It was enough to make me nervous about getting married. I shouldn't have wasted so much time worrying because being married is awesome, and it's all about what you choose to focus on. I wish someone had pulled me aside and said, 'Don't buy into all your friends' drama. Your marriage will be what you make it.'"