You've checked off making a hat out of bows at the bridal shower and taking down celebratory shots of tequila at the bachelorette party, but before your job as a bridesmaid is over, you have one more important task slipping off your fingertips. You have to lead your bride down the aisle! Minutes before you take your first step and minutes before she takes hers, you'll want to be her mini not-too-overwhelming cheerleader, making her feel like the most beautiful and magical she's ever felt in her life. To help make sure that happens, here are five things not to say to the bride before she walks down the aisle.
1. Are you sure about this?
Maybe its common sense, but right before she takes her first step forward, leave out asking her if she's sure about the guy, the venue, the dress she picked. Instead, no matter what you're feeling or thinking, make her feel like every choice she made today is the absolute right one.
2. Can we take a selfie?
Chances are you'll be super excited to take photos of yourself with the bride, but save those for when you're getting ready in the morning or when you're on the dance floor after the ceremony. When everyone is lining up to walk down the aisle, switch your phone off, and focus your energy on helping the bride take deep breaths.
3. Are you scared?
Forget about asking her if she's scared to be married, walk down the aisle, or entertain hundreds of guests for the next six hours. She's probably feeling the jitters as it is, so just reassure her that today, you have her back.
4. Any last words?
I'm sure the bride will have quite a few, but instead of making her think about the nerves she's bottling up, bring her out by asking her fun questions, bringing back exciting memories of her and the groom, or even laughable inside jokes.
5. Want to take a shot?
Save the tequila for after shes said "I do." That goes for the bridesmaids too! Limit yourselves to a mimosa or two. Remember, you have to walk a straight line down the aisle too.
Jen Glantz is a "Professional Bridesmaid" and the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire*. She's the author of *All My Friends Are Engaged and frequently wears old bridesmaid dresses to the grocery store and on first dates.