Unless culture and custom rule that bridal shower gifts should be the equivalent of wedding presents, gifts given to the bride at a shower should not be elaborate. Shower gifts should be appropriate to the shower theme (if it has one), like kitchen, lingerie, or bar. If not, they can be handmade, useful household items, or something meaningful to the bride. Since these guidelines are still quite vague, we looked for more specific questions related to shower presents and found helpful etiquette answers for everyone!
If a guest can't attend, must she send a gift?
It's definitely not a must. Sometimes, close friends or relatives wish to, however, which is fine. If a nonattending invitee does send a gift, she should send it directly to the shower hostess, and not from the store directly to the bride. The gift should be accompanied by a card to let the guest of honor know the name of the donor.
Is it appropriate to have a gift shower for an encore bride?
It's totally acceptable to do so. For couples who may already have the basic necessities, food showers, garden showers, and ticket (to some entertainment) showers may be more appropriate than traditional kitchen or linen showers.
I don't want guests to feel a financial burden from giving a shower gift in addition to a wedding gift. How do I go about this?
Couples and shower hosts often choose a clever low-cost themed event such as a recipe shower or a best-wishes shower (think wishing wells, etc.) They're fun and so common that it won't be totally obvious as to why you chose to plan it that way, though guests will certainly appreciate it nonetheless.