Though your wedding guest list likely consists of lifelong friends and close family members, a handful of your attendees will inevitably attempt to buck tradition and phone in their attendance. But what is a bride to do when her family members decide to bail on the ceremony and skip straight to the reception revelry? Our etiquette experts weigh in on absentee guests.
Your guests' choice to skip your ceremony and head straight for the all-you-can-eat buffet at the wedding reception is insulting and incredibly ill-mannered, especially when the attendees in question are family members. However, your family may need a subtle reminder that their presence is desired when you say your "I dos" — not simply for the celebration afterwards.
First, express to the guests in question how important their attendance is at your nuptials, and how devastated you would be without their support and love as you say your vows. Reminding your would-be absentee attendees of their significance to the wedding may be the gentle push they need to commit to the ceremony. You may even offer the family members intending to play hooky from your nuptials transportation between the ceremony and reception as an added show of good faith. Whether or not you persuade your guests to attend the ceremony as well as the reception, you can rest assured they will understand the gravity of missing the pivotal moment of your wedding ceremony, and how significant their presence at the wedding truly is to your happiness.