When you put your wedding planning hat on and start making decisions about what you want to include in your wedding and what you want to leave out, it's important to make a list of wedding traditions and etiquette rules that you don't prefer or like very much. You can easily toss them to the curb and leave them out of your big day, or you can adjust them a bit so they fit your wedding style and personality. To get you started, here are four wedding etiquette rules you can totally throw out the window.
1. Having the Bride's Parents Pick Up the Bill
For ages, it was almost assumed that the bride's parents paid for the wedding. But that's no longer the case. Now, it's more of a conversation. Both families sit down with the couple and chat about money and set a budget before the wedding planning starts. It's even common, now, that the couple pays for the entire wedding themselves.
2. Having Party Favors
Skipping out on party favors is an okay thing to do at modern weddings. It will cut cost down and even save you from buying items that most of your guests will forget to take home with them.
3. Having a Seating Split During the Ceremony
You no longer have to have the bride's family sit on one side and the groom's family sit on the other. Mixed seating is okay to do and even makes the newly fused together families feel more comfortable at the ceremony.
4. Walking Down the Aisle
If walking down the aisle is something that makes you feel jittery or even suffocates you with nerves, you can skip that tradition altogether. You don't have to do a long straight walk. You can have the ceremony start with both of you up there together or even walking down the aisle together.
Jen Glantz is a "Professional Bridesmaid" and the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire. She's the author of All My Friends Are Engaged and frequently wears old bridesmaid dresses to the grocery store and on first dates.