Over time, the traditional "hen party" meant to last a few hours to celebrate your last time as a single girl has evolved into weekend, or even weeklong vacations. The dilemma many brides (and bridal parties) face when bachelorette planning comes along often begs the question, "To travel, or not to travel?" Having a hard time making a decision with your girls? We're here to help! Consider these five factors that can help your decision making when choosing the best bachelorette party for you and your bridesmaids.
This may sound like a no-brainer, but the biggest issue for guests attending weddings and bachelorette parties, is cost. The more expensive a trip is, the less likely it will be that everyone you'd love to have can join you. An easy remedy for this is to do your research before hand. Find options and pricing so you can get a general ballpark figure in your mind of what the cost may be. Then, send out feelers to everyone to determine the ideal budget.
Your bachelorette party should be reflective of your personal style and comfort level. If you're a homebody who hasn't ventured out of your hometown in years, a week in Mexico might not be the best option for you. Conversely, if you're consistently traveling and out on the town, it may be more likely that you and your best girls will hop on a plane for the festivities. Just because it's a "once in a lifetime" gathering, always make sure it is what YOU want, but be sure to always make sure you have reasonable expectations through the planning process. (See next.)
Okay, here's where you can make or break your bachelorette. Yes, you're the bride and yes, your friends want to make you happy and throw you an amazing party. But you must stay grounded and be reasonable in what you expect. Chances are you have a general idea of your friend's preferences, budgets, and schedules. So, if half your friends are teachers and you want to go away for a week in January, you have to understand that might not be possible. The last thing you want to do is be disappointed, so don't set yourself up for disappointment with delusions of grandeur or wishing for things to happen that just can't. Also, it's okay to expect different things from different people. Depending on your relationship, and your friends' life circumstances, some may be able to go above and beyond for you (as you would for them) while others might not be. Understand this, accept it, and focus on the good.
While you certainly don't have to plan everything around everyone, taking a mental survey of who you will be inviting and their ability or likelihood to travel can help to not only enable you to make the right decision, but also show others you're thinking of them. As much as your bachelorette is a celebration for YOU, it also does significantly affect all who attend — especially if you're traveling. By determining your guest list ahead of time you will also get a better idea of the numbers game. If you only want to celebrate with four or five people, traveling can be a great option for you. If you want to party with 20 of your nearest and dearest, a local bash would be more appropriate, and way easier to plan, too.