How to prolong it? Easy: do not — we repeat — do not get into the nitty-gritty of wedding planning right away. Why? Because as soon as you start making real, actual plans, you’ll face the pressures of sticker shock and other people’s opinions. We want to help you postpone these complicating realities, since you’ll be living in them for many months to come. Here are three fun things you must do before you start wedding planning.
1. Tell everyone, together.
Don’t text your engagement news or post it on Facebook. Instead, meet with important family and friends to share your news. If that's not possible in the immediate future, at least make a phone call with both of you on the line. Contrast how different you’ll feel by getting a lot of Facebook “likes” and responses versus hearing friends’ excited screams at your announcement, feeling their happy hugs, accepting their heartfelt congratulations, drinking their celebratory champagne, and sharing your joy. The latter is definitely a lot more fun and will create a lasting lifelong memory, marking the beginning of your engagement.
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2. Fantasize about your wedding.
Don't start googling and getting rates just yet; stay in the fantasy so that you enjoy it for a little while. Always wanted to get married on skis? In a bikini? At a castle? What has your fiancé always envisioned? What crazy type of wedding would he or she want? Bat around ideas for your impossible-to-reach and ridiculously expensive fantasy destination wedding. Be lighthearted. Be outrageous, as you will have plenty of limiting reality checks coming your way when you get down to business. For now, live in the wedding fantasy world — without pressures and price tags.
3. Try on wedding dresses.
Immediately (and just for fun) get to trying dresses on. You can’t possibly buy a gown this early in the planning process, as you don’t have a clue what your budget is, much less the style of your wedding. Book an appointment at a major bridal chain just to have the experience. Tell the salesperson, “This is my first pass; I’m not ready to buy today,” and go crazy trying on every style you want — especially those you’d never envision yourself wearing.
Remember: you have months and months of real-world wedding planning ahead of you. Your goal now: stay in the newness, fun, and simple joy of just being engaged and postpone the nitty gritty details for as long as possible. Cheers!