When you’re deep into wedding planning, with time ticking down toward your big day, sometimes the honeymoon can seem like the only thing that’s getting you through your never-ending to-do list. A week (or more!) of relaxation, adventure, and quality one-on-one time with your new husband or wife? Yup, sounds pretty great! But you can’t get excited about a trip you haven’t planned yet. So, who’s supposed to take the lead on honeymoon planning, making calls to the travel agent and booking those flights? Our experts weigh in.
Traditionally, wedding etiquette states the groom plans the honeymoon—and that it should be a surprise for the bride. While this gesture is totally romantic and a perfect fit for a bride who loves a little mystery, more and more couples are opting to plan this getaway together. After all, have you tried packing for a trip when you don’t know where you’re going? It can be seriously stressful, even if you know it will be “warm” or you’ll be “doing a lot of activities.”
Instead, we’re all for bucking tradition and handling honeymoon planning together as a fun break from the nitty-gritty of getting ready for your wedding. Brainstorm the destinations you’ve always wanted to visit, find the activities and excursions (or relaxing beaches) that speak to you, and make sure to throw in an elegant dinner for two or an indulgent stay in a souped-up suite.
Want to keep that element of romance and mystery without going in totally blind? Assign a day for each of you to plan completely as a surprise for your significant other, to be revealed that morning or as the day goes by. That might mean a few luxurious hours at the spa, a hike to a breathtaking waterfall, or passes for that scuba-diving excursion that your hubby-to-be has always dreamed of. Mix a little suspense in with all of that vegging for a trip you’ll remember!